How can I get my parents and or family to use the right pronoun and name?

I've found the best way is to be up front and tell them how much being misgenered harms you. Once they realise that it might help them to understand and start using the correct terms.

Two things, number one, patience, number two repetition. Your parents and family love you, but it will take some time to make the transition to a new pronoun/name. So you will have to correct them and or remind them at times. And yea, you are probably going to have to remind them a lot. But remember, they have spent their whole lives calling you by a different pronoun/name, it will take them some time to make the switch. So the only words of wisdom I can offer are to be patient, know they love you and it is not out of malice, but out of habit that they misname. Good luck!

Remind them. Often times, even if they're very supportive, they'll still forget every now and then. And don't harp on them too much for this, I mean they used on pronoun set and name for a long time. But do remind them if it gets to be too much. Most of the time they just forget.

I don't know about the whole family, but for your parents, I wrote my mother a letter explaining how I felt, why I wanted her to use my new name and pronouns; I told her how much it would mean to me, and I made it very clear that I would love her no matter what. I think that's incredibly important to remember. Your parents are people too, and I don't know who they are, or what they're like, but I know that they are people, with feelings of their own, thoughts of their own, needs. You can write them a letter if you think it'd work, but if it doesn't, I recommend just correcting them if they continue to misgender you, and try to show them as much love as possible. It made it very hard for my mother to be transphobic and intentionally abusive when I was consistently treating her with love and respect, no matter what she did. Hang in there bud ^^

I feel like its really just about communication, It's important to let them know how important it is to you that they use the correct name and pronouns. Its also important for you to remember that they have always known you as one thing at it will take a little time for them to get used to referring to you in a different way. Both you and your parents/ family need to try to talk about it openly.

Depeding on your family views, it can turn out more or less challenging. However, a good beginning would be to tell them how you feel when they address you properly, and how you feel when they don't. Most of the times, showing people feelings they can relate to (sadness, frustration, fear, pain) makes it easier for them to understand you. A good tip would be: tell them how YOU feel, but don't make it sound like it is their fault (even if it is). If they feel blamed, they are less likely to listen. Then just politely remind them of the pronouns and name you find right for you.

Definitely try to sit down with them and have a real discussion with them that the name and pronouns they are using now are wrong, and may offend you. If they still don't care about what you want to be called, definitely speak to someone such as a school counselor or a close friend about the situation.

Sit down and have a proper talk about what you would like to be called and why you would like the be called that. Regardless of what happens stay calm throughout and don't let quick emotions like anger ruin a long term relationship.

Help educate them in a nice and fun way. Show that you have only the best intentions in mind, and things will become a lot easier to teach. Educate by saying what the right pronoun and name is, then explain why that is more suitable than what they're used to.

Ask them! Most of the time, people just don't use the right pronouns or names because they don't know! You should just educate them.