How can I figure out if I am bisexual, or if I am just going through a phase?
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Updated: Jul 12, 2024
SecretKeeperForever32
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Sep 29, 2015
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That mentioned 'phase' does not exist. Sexuality is not a choice or a phase. If you are truely bisexual, you will know it well.
Anonymous
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Jun 17, 2015
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Bisexuality can seem "like a phase" on occasion, but the easiest way to tell if you are is by searching deep within and determining whom you are sexually attracted to. If you are sexually attracted to members of both the male and female gender then you are bisexual.
Anonymous
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Jan 29, 2018
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I don’t know how much I believe that people go through “phasesâ€. It’s something my parents told me when I tried to come out as bisexual. The best way you can tell is to ask yourself would I be comfortable engaging in sex with both males and females? Have I ever experienced romantic feelings for the same gender and the opposite? Can I picture myself in a relationship with someone of the same sex/someone of the opposite sex? I hope this was helpful, if not I’ll provide this link to a page that might assist you further :) http://www.bisexualindex.org.uk/index.php/AmIBisexual
JayBird8000
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Sep 15, 2015
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Giving it time. There's no magic method to figuring this out truthfully. Regardless if its a phase for now, your feelings feel real now. If being bi is just a phase for someone, it doesn't mean they were lying. It means they were discover who they were and tested out new waters. Don't be afraid to find your true self.
BooishMonkey
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Aug 30, 2016
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This just comes with experience. It is not something you should worry about though. When you fall in love with someone, man or woman, it will no longer matter if you are bisexual. You get to choose who you will end up with.
Anonymous
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Feb 22, 2016
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If you are sexually attractive to both genders, then you are considered as a bisexual. Besides, I highly doubt that there's "going through a phase" kind of situation. Sure, there are curious beings who experiment their promiscuity, but it isn't a phase.
BradyHero
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Jan 24, 2017
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Sometimes, giving it time is the best way to tell. At first, I thought that maybe my sexuality was a phase, but as time went on, I grew to realize that it's who I really am. You may find the same - or you may find the opposite. There's no rush to figure it all out right away. Just keep living your life and pay attention, because one day, you won't have to guess - you'll know.
Aayla
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Aug 8, 2019
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If you feel attracted to more than one gender, if imagining yourself with people of different genders gives you a good feelings at a physical and emotional level, you are bisexual. Sexualities are not phases, questioning is a phase, and this is where you are right now. But if, after this exploration of your own feelings, desires, emotions and needs, you find out that you are attracted to more than one gender, then you are bi.
AlvinK00pa
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Oct 24, 2017
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Being bisexual can be confusing to most, in my eyes it's when you feel comfortable having a relationship with either sex. Like any sexuality, I personally feel it's something you need to try and experience for yourself. There really isn't a checklist that you check and thus be able to label yourself a certain way, it's something you need to experience for yourself.
I mean, in all honesty, if you labeled yourself as bisexual, but only dated a certain gender, it still wouldn't matter too much, you're never locked into a label that you or others put upon you and you should just be free! :)
Anonymous
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May 2, 2016
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Are you attracted to 2 or more genders? Congrats, you're bisexual! Also, sexuality can be fluid: It's alright if it changes, you are legitimate as you are right now.
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