How can I explain to my friends that me being attracted to girls (without sounding rude or mean) doesn't necesarily mean I like them?
Anonymous
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Jan 14, 2015
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You could explain it in terms of the opposite way around. If I am a girl and I have a boyfriend, I still have guy friends without liking them like that. So if I am a girl who has a girl friend, I can have girl friends who I do not like like that.
Anonymous
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Apr 10, 2015
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"just like you can be friends with boys & not want to be with them romantically, i'm interested in girls but i'm not purely focused on being with someone" might be an appropriate way.
Anonymous
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Jun 7, 2015
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Simply tell them that you are, simply, gay. Just like heterosexual people do not fall in love with every person of the opposite gender they see, you do not either. The important thing to explain to them is that being gay does not make you a different person, and you are the same as heterosexual people, just with different romantic tastes.
BlueYozhik
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Apr 8, 2015
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One way to do this is to take whatever your friend is attracted to as an example (let's call it 'X') and ask, "are you attracted to every single 'X' you meet?" Most likely, the answer will be "Of course not". If they aren't compulsively attracted to every single example of 'X' (whether that refers to their preferred gender, or some other vague category, like jazz musicians), then why should you be attracted to every girl you know?
SweetBliss98
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Apr 9, 2015
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Explain to them that just as they were your friends before you came out, they are still your friends. Even if you are attracted to girls, doesn't mean you are attracted to ALL girls. The same way they aren't attracted to ALL boys.
Eluna
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Apr 17, 2015
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Just tell them that they're not your type, and that being attracted to women doesn't necessarily mean that you're attracted to all women- everyone has their types.
Dannus
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Apr 26, 2015
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I explain to my guy friends (i am gay), that i like them as a friend, but i am not attracted to them. I tell them that just like they aren't attracted to their opposite sex friends, you aren't attracted to your same sex friends.
Jessiboy
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May 9, 2015
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Explain to them that just like they are not attracted to all males you are not attracted to all females
JinkzKitty
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Jun 10, 2015
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I suppose I look at it back the same way, if you were attracted to guys would you be attracted to all your guy friends? Being interested in something doesn't mean it's an interest in a specific person that happens to match that.
Waterbear
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Jul 20, 2015
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"You know how you're attracted to guys, but you're not attracted to EVERY SINGLE GUY in the world? It's like that."
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