How can I explain homosexuality to my parents?
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Updated: Apr 29, 2022
Anonymous
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Sep 11, 2019
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The simplest way to explain homosexuality to someone is that you like the same gender and would make love with exclusively the same gender. If they don’t understand this, then try that you don’t like any other gender but the one you identify as. If they say homosexuality isn’t normal, well, it’s found in 450+ species while homophobia is found only in one. Another way to deal with hate is to tell them that it’s not a choice- you are literally born gay(it’s been proven!) so it’s not something you can control. In the end, it’s your choice on how to explain it to them, and I’m sure it’ll go well!
Anonymous
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Dec 13, 2020
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My parents were Christian, and had different views about being LGBTQ+ then I do. So, when a friend of mine came out as gay, it was challenging for them to understand at first. They thought she was calling out for help, when really she was finally comfortable to tell the world more about her identity as a person. I explained it to my parents by showing them the original Greek and Aramaic, as well as Hebrew in the Old and New Testaments. An error was made in the 1940's which mistranslated a word for pedophilia as 'homosexuality' which has caused the misconception among some Christians that being LGBTQ+ is wrong. When my parents took time to reflect on this new information, they began to see that my friend's sexuality wasn't wrong, rather it was the true expression of herself.
Anonymous
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Apr 29, 2022
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It's all about Communication, Honesty, Trust, and being totally Transparent. You have to be patient, it takes time for some parents to understand. We as gay people sometimes create our own family circles. I've learned that not everybody is going to agree, and accept my lifestyle. Have learned to accept that. It's about being your Authentic True Self. always. I didn't say it was always easy, but staying TRUE to yourself is everything in life. Surrounding yourself with people that love you unconditionally is Massive. Toxic people, and environments must be excluded, completely from your life. Even unfortunately some family members. My partner, and I are married. Yes, you can live a caring, and wonderful life:).
dhend0
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Jan 11, 2015
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Providing they don't understand, you could show them some great forums on the internet, the internet is great for being able to explain things and understand things.
Spiderman93
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Jan 28, 2015
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explain it to them by your definition of it. they may or may not seem accepting of your decision at first, and thats ok. let them know that no matter what your choice is, that you still love them. let them know that you are the same person you were yesterday, maybe even stronger because you have exposed the true you! stay strong.
DanielleBW
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Apr 9, 2015
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There is no single, sure-fire way of telling your parents that you are lesbian or gay. You can tell them that you love the same sex as you just like the love the opposite sex.
RachaelBella152
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May 23, 2015
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Tell them who you love. Tell them that the way that they love each other is how you feel about your person. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone. "You don't have to defend or explain yourself or your decisions to anyone. It's your life. Live it without apologies".
Peter1447
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Jul 13, 2015
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This is a very hard subject to explain to older people, I think its important to tell your parents in a way they understand, being simple is never bad!
OhSoLovely
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Nov 23, 2015
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you could use purely scientific terms if you want and just explain that its sometime people cannot change, it is just part of who someone is
lizzle
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Nov 30, 2015
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You explain that from a liberty perspective that if 2 people want to be in love or have sex with each other, then they should have liberty to do so. As it doesn't cause anyone else life to change in a single way. From a scientific perspective there are many unknown reasons why this occurs , but it occurs in all different forms of nature from plants to animals. If talking to people with different belief systems, then say that not everyone belief system is truly right, and as long as we all have tolerance for each other then it shouldn't matter, because no one is being harmed. If you're talking literally about it, you would explain that is defined by 2 people with the same gender that are attracted to each other.
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