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Profile: Fradiga
Fradiga on May 30, 2020
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This will all depend on how receptive they are. Your question does not say if you are "coming out" to your parents or if they live somewhere were homosexuality is hidden and thus not commonly referred to. Approaching the subject all depends on how receptive they are to hear about this topic as well. Hoping that the whole exchange can take place in a neutral, good-will infused ambiance, you can start by saying that gay people are actually a rather common occurrence (like - say - left-handed children) and that the person usually discovers their sexual and romantic inclination towards others of the same sex when they hit puberty, sometimes sooner and sometimes much later as well. If by then your parents are still willing to hear more information, you can certainly give it to them.
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Profile: Davelistener78
Davelistener78 on Jun 24, 2020
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Well I would start with explaining your wants and needs in a relationship, what you find attractive and ways a relationship will help you to be happy in life. Then you can try & explain that you feel attracted to men , and want to try dating men (if you haven't already)Try to be very calm try to assert yourself as this is the way you are, it won't change , and you have felt this way a long time, you need a man in your life. Parents want the best for you and they find joy in seeing you happy.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 11, 2020
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To explain homosexuality to your parents, you first need to know how they would react to the idea in a general situation. If they are educated and accepting, you will have no problem furthering their knowledge on the topic. But often times, parents can be closed off to the idea due to generational differences in ideas. In this case, explain to them that feelings of love towards another person come naturally, whether it be to a person of the same gender, or the opposite gender. A person’s preference of whom they love doesn’t change the type of human being they are. Sexuality is based on a spectrum, and shouldn’t be a deciding factor on how you view a person.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 6, 2020
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At first I would consider if you are in a safe environment. Are your parents possibly open minded? Or rather closely guarded and very homophobic? While it might be not comfortable, your direct safety comes first. Otherwise you can do it like that: 1) Sort everything out for yourself. They might ask you "why", "how long" and further questions and it will help you if you are more confident regarding the topic and more at ease with it. If you are still very unsure, the conversation might be harmful or confusing. Take your time, don't rush it. 2) Preparation: You might have to answer questions, if your parents aren't familiar with that topic. It might help to calm you down if you inform yourself about sexuality/gender and any LGBT topic concerning you. Should an argumentation happen, you will be more able to stand your ground. Then: search for a quiet environment. All of you should be relaxed and not under time pressure. Include only those family members you're comfortable with. Other can come later or even not at all if you decide against it. Regardless of this comment: again, assess and evaluate the situation yourself and see how safe it is to come out of have discussions in general. My parents always said, love is love and your gender doesn't define your soul. It doesn't hurt anyone and make people happy (especially when they have no choice), so why not?
Profile: IncredibleRainbows
IncredibleRainbows on Sep 4, 2020
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Explaining such a topic to parents can be rough. One should keep in mind that they should not feel guilty about not being able to do so. One's identity should not be a debate, but this is how life is. Depending on how conservative the parents are, you might want to approach the problem one way or the other. Simple, legitimate facts should have more priority than emotional involvement: people tend to open their ears more if they hear precise statements. Science articles, examples of historical events are insanely helpful. Mentioning that homosexuality cannot be helped, that it is not a choice is not always productive, so giving the parents food for thought - ”Do you think gay people choose to be oppressed, assaulted, killed?” is more effective.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 17, 2020
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This can be a very scary topic for some, especially when it comes to coming out. As a bisexual woman myself, I've had to face scary conversations with loved ones. I've found that it can be helpful to open the door to a conversation with parents on homosexuality by having something as a conversation starter. For instance, let's say you pull up a movie on your favorite streaming service of choice where the protagonist is gay or lesbian or somewhere within the LGBTQ+ realm, that gives you something to talk about to test the waters in a sense of how they might respond so it feels safe. Best of luck, friend.
Profile: HazelJanex
HazelJanex on Oct 23, 2020
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That you are still the person you were and nothing changed besides the fact you know who you are, love should never be illegal and you cant change who you like and dont like. You are still You! That they should be proud of what you went/ are going through, its not easy figuring out your sexual preference, love is love. People shouldn’t be ashamed to love who they love and they should be proud and happy of who they are. Try and have them be in your shoes and have them think of the person they love and imagine if that love was illegal and wrong, people just want to be happy and content!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 8, 2020
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I would like to start this by saying that I am not homosexual, I am bisexual but I still feel like I could offer some insight into the situation and my experience with it. Growing up my entire life I had always found little ways to talk to my mom about different same-sex relationships, such as bringing up someone from popular media and mentioning how that was "really cool!" and just me being generally supportive of LGBT people. I would do the same when family friends would get into same-sex relationships and in general my mom became fine with it and when I came out I had an idea for how she felt. But if your parents do not understand the idea of homosexuality itself and what it is and what it means it might be a good idea to try to explain it in simple terms. It is the same as a hetrosexual relationship but instead of being between a man and a women it is between two people of the same gender. It might also help to provide them with different resources such as blogs, articles, or even documentaries if those are available.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 13, 2020
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You don't need to explain your homosexuality. Just sit your parents down and tell them. If they don't accept that, then that is their loss, because they just lost one of the most important things in their lives. I believe communication is always key, and that it is difficult to come out, but I believe being honest is very important. Your parents should understand that homosexuality is not a choice, and it is not something they can change. If they love you, they will accept you the way you are without trying to change you or set you up with one of their friends children.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 15, 2020
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I personally have not came out to my parents due to some issues going on in the family (they are not bad), but a good idea would be to somehow get them into the "vibe", let's say, like, start wearing colors of your homosexual flag, start giving them hints, maybe? another idea could be to sit with them and try to talk about it with them in the best way possible for them to understand it, maybe show some examples, try to be understanding with their point of view but also try to show them that they should be respectful towards you and your sexuality. i hope this helps
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