How can I explain homosexuality to my parents?
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Updated: Apr 29, 2022
NekoBread
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Sep 22, 2015
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Just try to tell them of the easiest and informative way you can, and when you see that is a good timing; if you can, get support for some friend or someone that be there for you in these hard times. and info yourself about other cases like you.
TylerDelRey
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Apr 21, 2016
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The best way to explain is to tell them that its natural. No one chooses their sexuality, so they shouldn't be judged for that!
BubblySerenity91
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Jun 10, 2016
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You know what works best with your parents, but do your best to make it easy and clear to understand
bhetherson4
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Jun 11, 2016
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Homosexuality is love for the same gender as yourself. Though it may differ from how society portrays what a relationship should be, a relationship is always moving, building, and growing. Love is love no matter what gender or pronouns or preferences people have. Love should not be discouraged based on people's gender.
Anonymous
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Jun 23, 2016
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Sit down with them and have a calm and trusting talk. Don't just spring it on them, but lead them calmly into the subject.
SMStar
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Jul 9, 2016
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Homosexuality is love for the same gender as yourself. Though it may differ from how society portrays what a relationship should be, a relationship is always moving, building, and growing. Love is love no matter what gender or pronouns or preferences people have. Love should not be discouraged based on people's gender.
BlissfulNathalie24
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Jan 28, 2018
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Congratulations for discovering you sexuality and starting to think about how you will come out to your family! I'm so proud of you for coming to 7 Cups and exploring your options. Feel free to chat with me about this! I know it can be stressful and scary and at times feel alone. @BlissfulNathalie24 ! My short advice is to form a plan! Sounds easier that it is. Write down the best case scenario of what you WISH would happen. Now write down the worst thing that can happen. Could you get kicked out of your home? Made fun of? .. Think about that. Now go online. Find an LGBTQ+ support group (I work for one called the LGBT Life Center, Is there one of those in your city?) There, they will have hotlines, support groups, and even safe housing resources and everything to ease your fears! Think about THAT! .. Now tell a trusted friend. It is easier, for some reason, to come out to a friend you've known a few years than it is your family who has known you your whole life. Use this as a practice run for your parents... Now think about HOW you will tell them. The where and when. Will you tell mom first and then dad? Or will you do it over dinner like an announcement? Maybe have a sibling lay the ground work of telling them and then all you have to do is confirm it later? It is ALL your decision. What YOU are comfortable with. I'm so glad you are choosing to show the world who you are. This is a very vulnerable thing to do and I want to welcome you to this beautiful LGBTQ+ community.
tiredsnail
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Mar 31, 2018
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To begin, it is recommended not to come out in an unsafe environment. If you are comfortable, explain that you feel an attraction to the same gender.
RedVase1234
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Jun 9, 2018
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You can start by telling your parents that 2 people of the same sex or gender can feel the same kind of love, affection, and attraction as heterosexual couples do. Understand they might have questions, and be open to answering them the best you can
Aayla
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Aug 9, 2019
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It's all about telling them openly how you it feels to be homosexual, how you realize it, and what it means to live as homosexual. Make sure you tell them about why certain common misconception are wrong and what is really true, for example the fact that homosexuality is something innate and not a choice or a consequence of some life events. Let them know that gay people can be as happy and in love as any other. Let them know you're available to answer any question they might have, and most importantly, be as open-hearted as you can! Good luck!
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