How can I explain homosexuality to my parents?
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Updated: Apr 29, 2022
Anonymous
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Jun 25, 2017
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Homosexuality is somewhat of a spectrum. Each person is on different ends, or in the middle. People who are gay may still find girls attractive, and people who are lesbian may still find men attractive. Some may have feelings for both men and women but prefer men, or vise versa. No matter where you are placed on this spectrum, it doesn't change who you are as a person. It's a matter of you embracing who you are, and how you handle the situation.
Anonymous
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Sep 3, 2017
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Explain that you were born this way, that it's not a choice for you. Tell them you like the same gender the way other people like the opposite one.
Nessy22
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Nov 12, 2017
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Homosexuality is something we're born with, and not something we control. People who are born to be attracted to the same sex don't choose to be.
Anonymous
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Nov 19, 2017
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Im sure that if you calmly explain them how you feel about it they wont have any problem with it, understand and support you
Anonymous
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Nov 23, 2017
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Show them famous homosexuals and how successful they are. And then tell them that u were born this way and u hope they accept u because u cant change your feelings
Anonymous
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Dec 6, 2017
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I'd personally show them videos explaining homosexuality. And tell them that it is just me liking someone who is the same gender as me, and love doesn't have a limit.
absentveins
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Dec 13, 2017
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This can definitely be a hard subject to bring up if you feel like your parents won't accept you for who you are but the number one thing I will tell you is that they will love you no matter what. At first, they can be ignorant. They can be mad or be upset but that's simply because they are uneducated about what you are telling them. They probably weren't expecting that. They might be confused and unsure of what to tell you but never forget that they love you. You need to educate them about your sexuality so they can get a better understanding. When I told my parents, I was sitting at the kitchen table talking about my mental health because my girlfriend's mom told them I was depressed. I was so scared, and I knew I had to pour all of the things on my shoulders at once. My mom told me that even if I was gay, I could tell her because she'd still support me. So I told her and I started crying. My mom was very proud of me and hugged me. That was my experience, and I hope yours will be as amazing as mine was. If they don't support you after all of that, always know that I will and so much more people will.
Anonymous
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Dec 17, 2017
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Most of our parents grow up in a society that wasn't acceptive of gay people. For most of them, it's a really new thing, so the important thing here is communication. Teach them what homosexuality really is. They still have many stereotypes about it. Show them that it's a completely normal and healthy lifestyle, and that gay people are normal human beings, like everyone else. Show them that someone's sexual preference doesn't make them bad in other ways. It's just a small part of someone.
royalMango45
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Jan 6, 2018
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Okay, this is always somewhat of a difficult subject, because not everybody’s parents will have the same opinion on lgbt+, but there a few things you can do to ensure you are happy and prepared, albeit a bit nervous, to explain to your parents. If you don’t feel confident enough to tell them face to face, you could write them a letter, or if you’re more confident, you could sit them down, individually or as a family and talk to them, maybe show them some videos to help explain, or give them a presentation. Naturally, they will be curious and may ask some (embarrassing) questions, do make sure you’re armed with some knowledge of how you’re feeling and what being homosexual means to you. What is important for them to know is that love is love, and just because you feel love towards a certain gender, doesn’t make you any less of a person, because it’s absolutely normal to be gay/lesbian/etc., but society is making it seem like that’s not okay when it is. Make sure to tell them that you’re still you, that being homosexual doesn’t make you any different, it’s just who you love, and that shouldn’t matter :)
strawberryman23
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Jan 10, 2018
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Tell them that it is just love, like they have experienced, but between two people of the same gender. Tell them that it's just as real and just as valid as a relationship between two heterosexual people. You are valid.
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