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How can I come out to my dad if he is homophobic?

Profile: giantcoffeebean
giantcoffeebean on Apr 13, 2015
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Only if you are safe and comfortable with it. Do you feel that you may be put in a dangerous situation if you were to come out?
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Profile: SundayMorningBlues
SundayMorningBlues on Aug 3, 2015
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He is your father and loves you very much, He would accept whatever you choose to be :) but if he is seriously homophobic and you don't know how he would react, I wouldn't come out until I know I could support myself if something went wrong and he didn't accept me for who I am.
Profile: RainbowAlpaca
RainbowAlpaca on May 18, 2015
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Coming out is a choice you make. You are not obligated to tell people about your sexuality, especially if you don't feel comfortable or safe doing so.
Profile: AriAri
AriAri on Jun 8, 2015
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Whether you should come out at all really depends on whether your dad's homophobic views will affect your emotional or physical health. If there is a risk there, it is much safer to stay in the closet. However some homophobic parents, are often homophobic towards people they don't know. Some parents however can move past their homophobic views simply because you are their child and they appreciate your honesty. If your dad is homophobic, firstly Ii suggest assessing the situation for any real risks, and then if you choose to come, be sure to keep your composure and explain yourself with complete sincerity. It's much better to have these conversation to face to face, but as I have already stressed on. It's VERY important to put your safety first.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 7, 2015
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The best way is to be honest, tell him how you feel and that you've been worried about telling him. He may be a little apprehensive at first, but he should come around eventually because he really does care about you and should be able to understand that it's part of who you are. Your parents should still love you no matter what your sexuality is.
Profile: Rogue1234
Rogue1234 on Jun 14, 2016
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If your dad is homophobic then it will not be easy but if he really loves you then he will have to. You could let your mom knw first and then all sit down and tell him
Profile: daniellekay
daniellekay on Nov 21, 2016
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If you come out to someone who's homophobic, initially, it'll be a hard pill to swallow for the homophobe. However, they'll need to eventually learn how to accept you as who you are. If my dad were a homophobe, I wouldn't necessarily come out but would bring my same-gendered lover to the house casually and introduce my lover as my lover as if nothing's wrong.
Profile: amazingHeart17
amazingHeart17 on Oct 14, 2015
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This is never something that is super easy, but my advice would be before you do anything to let him know that you are his child, and he loves you. Other than that, try to prepare beforehand knowing what you are going to say, and making it clear that this has been hard on your life too. But if you don't feel like you're ready to come out yet, don't feel obligated to do so, coming out is your choice that you will make and by no means should you feel forced to be out of the closet.
Profile: Ginieboops
Ginieboops on Oct 16, 2015
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If you really do need to come our because you can't love as someone you're not it should probably be in a situation where you have people around and accepting you in the conversation and knowing there's some where you could go if he really disagrees with your sexuality (a friend or something) other adults who accept you and maybe a professional can help talk you both through it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 12, 2016
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Coming out is a step that you don't necessarily have to do! you don't need to be forced into coming out and for some It can sadly be dangerous to do so. I'd only recommend coming out if you feel your completely safe in your household, for example your mother or sister will fully support you. I'm sure whatever happens your family and your dad will love you either way. Even if it does take some time for your dad to get used to you being LGBT. I can't make the decision for you to come out as I don't know your circumstances only you know if its appropriate. Please only come out if it is safe and you won't be physically or mentally hurt.
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