Does everyone secretly despise LGBTs although many openly claim to accept and love it, including LGBT members and allies? Are there really people who see LGBT as of equal worth as heterosexuals?

Hi there. As someone who is part of the LGBTQ+ community, this is something that is a bit difficult to say a complete and secure answer. The reason why I say that is because while I do believe there are many allies, there are still people who will have an issue with the community for whatever reason (the most common being religious), even if they say that they don't. But, that doesn't mean that 'everyone' (meaning the world entire) is against or hates the LGBTQ+ community. There are many who love and accept the community. As for members of the LGBTQ+ having problems with other members of the community, there will be rifts for different reasons. It happens. But, again, just because there are a few members that have a problem with another group within the community does not mean that everyone is going to have issues with that said group. Let's say, a common one, is that there are some Lesbians and Gays who may have issues with Bisexuals for whatever reason and don't accept them in the community or spaces. But, that doesn't mean that all Lesbians/Gays have an issue or will exclude Bisexual individuals just because a few do. As for your question if there are people who truly see the LGBTQ+ community as equal worth, yes! There really are people who sincerely will not care who you are dating or are with and will see it as something normal - much like a heterosexual couple.

I don't know about other people but personally I truly don't see a problem with people in the LGBTQ+ society. In my opinion we're all just people who want to be accepted and loved. There's nothing wrong with either of those things. I see people in LGBT as of equal worth as heterosexuals. No matter where you go in the world there's gonna be people who dont like you for something you say, or what you look like, etc. So therefore i dont think it should matter anymore who you love. It's none of my business who you love or what you do in your life with the person you love. The only thing that should matter if you're in LGBTQ+ to me is what you want to be referred to as.

Yes. Yes, in fact I do see the LBGTQ+ as equals. I cannot argue that perhaps there are disingenuine people who put on a facade for the sake of looking 'clean' and 'acceptable', but please don't let that take away from the people who do genuinely care about the LGBTQ+ community. Not everyone is going to love or accept, not everyone will be honest and that truly sucks, but there is always going to be other people who will view the community as equals. At the end of the day, we are all human. To judge someone based on who they love would be wrong of us.

I have no doubts about that. I'm sorry to see your experience have been not the best, and I guess people are people and their actions might different from their words. But that's just some people. Of course LGBTQ people are equal and just as worthy. What difference does their orientation mean? NO difference!!!I wish we wouldn't even have to talk about it, I wish we lived in a society where everyone is treated equally, and I So hope we are moving towards that world. And I know many people will take this stand, and it's real. Because we care.

Yes there definitely are. I realize that the overall behaviour of society towards the LGBTQ community is mostly negative, yet that does not really mean that everyone around hate the community. Maybe it is hard to believe that there are people who actually accept, support and love the LGBTQ community, but there really are many such people. There are people that believe in equal rights and right to be respected irrespective of sexuality, there are heterosexual people who have never considered the LGBTQs as below them just because of the difference in sexual orientation. After all, what really matters about a person is their personality, whether their heart is in the right place. Sexuality is but irrelevant when deciding a person's worth really. And anyway, let's face it-the society has still not been able to bring itself to completely accept and respect the LGBTQ community as a part of them like the heterosexuals are, making life hard for the all the members and the allies of the community. Why would they willingly bear all the social censure and hardships if they don't really believe in the rights of the LGBTQ community with their whole heart?

There are more people out there than you think that see LGBT as less. By this I don't mean the clean-cut homophobes. I mean your average joe, who 'supports' LGBT but idealize cisgender and heterosexual people over people of the LGBT community; they're more common than you think. There are also members of the community who dislike others - for example, some gays or lesbians dislike/refuse to date bisexuals. However, to answer your question I don't believe everyone secretly despises LGBT. There are differences between straight and LGBT relationships, so in that regard they will never be truly 'equal'; however there are good, kind people who do not treat LGBT and straight people any differently. They do not change their ideas/thoughts on a person solely because they are LGBT. Hope this helped.

I do not think that everyone despise the LGBT community. However, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. LGBT community should be treated equally as heterosexuals. Everyone deserves to be treated equally regardless of their sexual preference. LBGT community deserve the same respect as heterosexuals. However, there are still people out there who for some reason cannot accept the LGBT community. Some of it is due to religious reasons. Unfortunately, we have to respect what other individuals beliefs. We may all have our differences but regardless of our differences, respect should always be given to the LGBT community the same way we do with heterosexuals.

While there may be people who fake their acceptance of the community, I believe that there are still many who see LGBTQ+ members of equal worth as cishets. There will always be hate in the world, but we couldn't know hate without experiencing love. It may seem like the allies you know are faking it, which may be true, but you would have to get their ideas before making the call. Personally, I have cishet friends who I believe truly support me and love me even though we are different. So in conclusion, yes, there are allies who don't truly accept the community, but there are PLENTY who do.

'Everyone' is a broad generalisation. I disagree that everyone openly claim to accept and love LGBTQI+ individuals - some people do not accept such individuals due to their religious backgrounds for example. But I think you might be asking "For those people who openly claim to accept and love LGBTQI+ people (including LGBTQI+ members and allies), do they secretly despise LGBTQI+ people?" The answer is yes. Some parents accept their child who identify as LGBTQI+, love them for who they are, and affirm their identities. For example, Jazz Jennings was born a boy, but identified as a girl and came out to her parents when she was 5, and her parents loved and accepted her. You can watch the first 45 seconds of this video of Jazz Jennings: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mARaukQB6Do

Yes, of course there are! But use discretion wisely to determine if your situation is safe. And yes it can be true that some people support lgbt openly just to hop onto the bandwagon for social gains, but there are some who genuinely want to support us. and remember that sometimes people can have some unconscious bias that do not reflect their conscious views, but can consciously change their biases through work. I hear you though, as gays we grow up being extra vigilant about our safety, and you are suspiscious if people who are seemingly supportive on the outside might have vicious thoughts inside and your anxiety is looking for that threat because you may have experience or seen homophobia and your brain is preparing for this reoccurring situation, but personally I think we are in a really progressive spot right now and there are now so many safe lgbt+ places to go let down our guards and support each other- fellow lgbt member :)