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Does everyone secretly despise LGBTs although many openly claim to accept and love it, including LGBT members and allies? Are there really people who see LGBT as of equal worth as heterosexuals?

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GentleAutumnRain on Oct 2, 2019
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Everyone is a big group of people, and a secret discrimination on that scale would be somewhat hard to manage! But I digress, What you're talking about has a name-- "Internalized (homo/bi/trans)phobia." Internalized phobias are obtained through exposure to outward, or external, phobia and discrimination expressed at the person. When subject to a large group of people who are outspokenly despising you, it's hard not to adopt those thoughts and think "They might be onto something." Understanding that to be socially acceptable and not-heterosexual is a relatively new thing for many people. There are many in this community who are still in quite a bit of pain due to or even still enduring homophobia/transphobia in their lives. Sometimes, simply needing to cope, they express this pain outwards or hold it against themselves. There are, however, many people who don't feel this way, most of which have taken efforts to work with their internalized homophobia/transphobia. I highly recommend that anyone who feels this way to seek out other LGBT people in a support group, speak to a LGBT-knowledgeable therapist/counselor, and/or connect to a listener who is familiar with what internalized transphobia/homophobia is and how to work to grow from it.
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Anonymous on Oct 23, 2019
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oh sweetheart! i know this feeling and trust me, i know where it stems from. there’s this pit in your heart where you have all these doubts about everything. about these people around you, their love for you, your feelings, your love, everything starts to feel like a mess. i’ve had this feeling too, you know, this era where i thought no one really loved me because i was bisexual. but trust me, there are people out there who will love you and cherish you for who you are. because the fact i like boys and girls doesn’t change my value in a community. and people know that i am just as capable, just the same. there are so many out there who will love you just the same, you just need a little faith and love
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Makaylahelps3350 on Oct 24, 2019
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I do!! I love y’all!! YALL DESERVE AS MUCH LOVE AND APPRECIATION AS EVERYONE ELSE! WE ARE ALL HUMANS!!!! WE SHOULD LOVE EACH OTHER AND BUILD EACH OTHER UP!! 😀
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creativesometimes on Nov 3, 2019
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Of course, LGBT people are of equal worth as heterosexuals, why wouldn't they be? what difference does it make if I love men, women, non-binary folk or a combination of those? what difference does it make if I feel sexual or romantic attraction or not? what difference does it make if I feel my gender fits the body I was born in or don't? That doesn't mean I deserve less food or sleep or care and love as the people who check the "normal" reply to these questions. I am a gay asexual non-binary polyamorous person (so I'm basically anything but "normal" here) but I am worth just as much as my straight allosexual cisgender monogamous sister and I don't see why I shouldn't be.
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Anonymous on Nov 15, 2019
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No, not everyone secretly despise LGBTs. Word "everyone" is a very extreme Word. If there is just 1 person out of more than 7 billion people on the world who doesn't secretly despise LGBT, the statement that everyone secretly despise LGBT is false. There might be people who see LGBT as of equal worth as heterosexuals. People are very different and you can't generalize these sentences to everyone. Saying that everyone secretly despise LGBT would be overgeneralization which is one of thinking fallacies as people are so different that you can't generalize these things to everyone. There are people who don't despise LGBT.
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Anonymous on Dec 11, 2019
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There are people all over the world who love and accept LGBT people for who they are. Many of these people feel this way because they have LGBT friends or family members. One of the most important things that helps break down homophobia is knowing someone who is LGBT. That is one of the reasons why it is so important to come out, provided you can do so in a safe way. Because everyone is presumed to be straight at a young age, it can be difficult to grapple with the fact that you are different, but at the end of the day we are all people who deserve to be loved and there is plenty of love to give to our LGBT brothers and sisters.
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Anonymous on Dec 13, 2019
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I think despite sexual preference everyone should be accepted. There will always be someone who disagrees with that. However, you can't look at the people who hate on your personal preference. You need to focus on the people who will always be by your side and understand what you're going through. whether those people are allies or are also a part of the LGBTQ+ community. Some people are probably lying but many people lie. The real supporters will always come out in the times that matter. It may be hard to accept the un-accepting but we have to understand that they have their own way of thinking and its a dumb way to think, but its their opinion.
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scoopitywhoop on Dec 20, 2019
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Of course not... I think that once people learned that LGBTs aren't doing harm to society they stopped caring as much. Almost everyone that says they love LGBT people actually means it. Yes we accept you and love you no matter who you love, it really doesn't make a difference to me, as you're not doing anything wrong if you are LGBT. I don't know this for sure, but this sounds like some serious manipulation, as this type of argument is common for homophobes... That we're all 'faking support'. But it's not an accurate perspective on reality. We love you!!!
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Anonymous on Feb 2, 2020
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I do feel that those part of the LGBTQ+ community it equally to cis and heterosexual people. We are all entitled to our own options. However, saying someone is worth less because of their sexuality or gender is similar to saying someone is worth less because they have brown hair. Imagine a world where everyone with brown hair was given less rights and discrimination against because of this. Or if you were cursed at for having ADHD because not everyone has ADHD. Furthermore, what gives a person value? What makes them equal? Is it what they can contribute? Is someone who is bisexual unable to contribute to the community because they find men and women attractive?
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Anonymous on Feb 8, 2020
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Of course! I believe that everyone, no matter their gender or sexuality, is worth the same amount of love and support. LGBT people (including myself) are misunderstood by some people, that’s all. No matter what, we are valid, and I love that about us. When someone doesn’t understand something, it is hard for them to see it as equally important. But if they genuinely try to understand and support an LGBT member, they are trying to make that member of greater worth in their mind. That alone is enough to show that yes, we are of equal worth, and no one gender or sexuality is greater than another.
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Hedwiglovegood on Feb 15, 2020
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yes! i do and so do some of my heterosexual friends! for me love is love and life does not look at genders and sexualities. we are all here to make the happiest and the best out of what we get in our lifetime and i believe with all my heart that happiness can never be wrong fundamentally . it is true that people do not like change and unique. its like an instinct to undermine the underdog or minority. they don't accept that we are real, that we love and care just as much. Change is gonna take time, but have faith.one day it won't matter what our sexuality is. We will choose over hatred. We just have a long way to go and realise, that after everything . Love wins.
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Anonymous on Feb 26, 2020
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Some people see liking the same gender as a sin, while some, although they may not like it, accept it. It depends on the person mainly. Some may lie, while others are completely truthful. You can usually tell based on their actions and how they act verbally around you. Either way, you are valid and they should love you either way. Don't worry about what people say and just worry and focus on you. It doesn't matter what they think. Just remember no matter what anyone says, You're valid, You're amazing, and you should be treated equally and you are loved. 🌈
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PuffPride7 on Feb 29, 2020
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I definitely believe there are! Many people aren't used to LGBT people being open with their sexuality, and can therefore be a little shocked when they see it publicly displayed, but that doesn't mean they 'despise' LGBT people. I think a lot of especially younger people genuinely don't see a difference between LGBT and hetero people, and I think that number is getting higher every day. I can't look into someone else's mind, I can't see know anything other than what they tell me about what they truly think, but I can speak for myself and what I think to know about my friends' meanings, and that is that your sexuality doesn't factor into your worth at all
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Emirson2018 on Mar 8, 2020
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I do. I genuinely see LGBTQ+ individuals as equals to heterosexual and cisgender people. To me, it doesn't matter what gender someone identifies with or if they choose not to identify with either one, and who the person is sexually or romantically attracted to. In my opinion, it really shouldn't matter. In my personal opinion, hating LGBTQ+ individuals is equal to racism. Every human being has a right to be loved and respected, regardless of their skin color, gender identity, or sexual orientation. LGBTQ+ people are born the way they are, and excuses such as "that's not normal" and so on are still discrimination which shouldn't be happening.
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courtney9310 on Mar 21, 2020
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There are definitely people who accept and love the LGBT community. There is also a group on this website for LGBT individuals and allies to talk through some things you may be going through in a place where others can relate to you. I definitely see LGBT idividuals as my equal. I know it can be hard when people in society express negative views but it is important to surround yourself with people who love and respect you for who you are. I hope that you have people in your life that you trust and support you so they can show you that everyone is equal!
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blueskiesforyou on Mar 29, 2020
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Yes there really are people Who see LGBT people as equal worth as heterosexuals be use they do ha w equal worth. The worth of a person can’t not be based I. A person sexual preference. Their sexual preference has nothing f to do with whether or not they are kind, living , co Passionate , honest , hard working etc etc. someone’s sexual Preference is born in them and they should Not be vilified or made to feel they are bad or wrong or should be ashamed of their personal choice. They are people and should always be treat with kindness and respect like anyone should be treated
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Anonymous on Apr 22, 2020
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Of course there are people who see LGBT as equal. Yeah sure there are people who don't accept it. But the world is still evolving. The situation is now definitely better than it was many years ago. In many parts of the world people aren't afraid to openly speak about lgbt. We just need to keep moving forward and things will keep on improving. We as a society need to show more understanding and welcoming so people would stop being afraid of how they will be perceived by the society cause there is still people in this world who have different opinions and we need minimise the pressure and negativity that is put on communities like lgbt.
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Anonymous on Apr 23, 2020
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There are definitely people who see lgbtq+ as of equal worth as heterosexuals. I am one of them :) Also, some people may despise that, but there are many people out there to shine light on the lgbtq+ community. Not everyone secretly despises lgbtq+ and I also don’t think people who openly claim to accept and love it, despise it either. They are there to help and shine light on the equality we need in our lives. I am a supporter of lgbtq+ and there are many others. People are people and they can love whoever they want. Equality for all :)
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Anonymous on Apr 23, 2020
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I don't understand why you would think that "everyone secretly despise[s] LGBTs although many openly claim to accept and love it, including LGBT members and allies." Most LGBT individuals accept themselves, and of course allies are allies because they are accepting. There may be a few LGBT individuals who have difficulty accepting themselves (especially if their family doesn't accept them), but then they wouldn't be "openly" claiming love and acceptance for LGBT people- they would be more discreet. Of course there are some people who are against LGBT people, but they are usually vocal in their hate and don't pretend to "accept and love" LGBT people. Luckily, most people are truly loving and accepting of other people, and of course see LGBT people as equal worth as heterosexuals. If you are having troubles with LGBT acceptance, I'm sorry that you are going through that. There are a lot of sources on this site (and other sites) that can help you.
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Anonymous on May 3, 2020
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Yes some people do despise the community and on the other hand there are others who consider homosexuality equal to heterosexuality. A lot of people are unaware about the community, some don't give them acknowledgement, and some considers the concept unnatural, however I personally belief that it's completely natural. Loving another person intimately sexually is something that strikes you from within rather than been an external phenomenon. There are many places where the community is accepted however in other reasons it's not. Love is love and you have the capacity to love and have feelings for who ever you adore. I'm here for you is you wanna talk about the experience, is any upsetting experience you faced for the same but now that it's absolutely okay to be who you are and however you are.
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