I've not been able to cry for a very long time, and I really need to. Is there a method to induce crying and letting it all out ?
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Anonymous
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Oct 12, 2018
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Crying is cathartic and helpful. And you feel a need for that as well. First step is to stop trying too hard and pressurizing yourself about it. Its important to be compassionate to oneself. Once this pressure is lifted give yourself some alone time. Just try to be with yourself in that time. Then visualize the crisis situation. Use all your sense organs to bring that alive. So much so that you feel that you are reliving that situation. The idea is not to cause distress to you but to help you be in the situation and bring out the distress so that you are able to feel it all and cry if you have to. Once you do that, please know that it is all right to cry. And it is all right to not cry as well.
I wish you well.
Anonymous
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Oct 13, 2018
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Crying is an excellent way of venting out your emotions. Whether it be happy or sad. Not being able to cry is actually not healthy coz you might end up having dry eyes or even an emotionless person.. But don't worry.. it's okay coz people are different and it's their differences that make them unique... And you are a unique person! Think about it ! You are so much better off that those hypersensitive people crying buckets at the slightest possible emotion..
How about you think of the saddest incident in your life and see whether you'd cry.. And If you don't, then cut onions.. that will surely activate those tear glands!
Anonymous
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Oct 18, 2018
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i look for things that touch me. or I try the opposites. from very metro upbringing. when i visit coastal...cliffs...I cry when waves crash. when I see miles of oceans.
or if life is tough, spend a little bit checking into posh hotel....jump start. treat self nice. that will start the tears
Or look for people that genuinely treat you well. being touched makes me cry too....approaching someone who cares, whom i trust...helps me cry
going to poorer communities helps (if youre originally from posh place)
Go on an adventure...that helps me cry.
Give yourself a break...that helps me cry.
Be nice to self...that helps me cry. or be brutally honest. Good luck!
Anonymous
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Nov 23, 2018
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I usually carry a journal wherever I go, whenever I have a hard time understanding my feelings, I just start writing and eventually my feelings spill out. It can be hard to cry but it will eventually happen and it will feel so much significantly better and you will have a better mindset. Crying is hard to do when you do not know how you are feeling but writing in a journal has always helped me. Another option for me is to talk to someone about it, I find it easier to talk or journal about it because it lets me feel safe
SilasTheRedPanda
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Dec 6, 2018
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A good way to start a flow of emotions is to talk to somebody, whether it be a counselor, parent, friend, or sibling about what's going on. Even having an emotionally raw conversation can start to let out the feelings you have restricted. I used to just vent to myself in the mirror at times, whilst listening to music. This can be a way if you have nobody you can talk to, just looking in a mirror and talking aloud about your problems can be very helpful. I really hope this helped you out. Good luck on your journey.
-Silas
joyfulShell72
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Jan 18, 2019
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Try and see a very sad movie, listen to sad songs. You can try to make it all dark, and sit in a room and close your eyes. You can try to meditate. Sometimes taking the name of lord also induces tears. But you need to take the name of your favorite god - whomever you believe in... Other methods include, getting a bad haircut, screwing up your dinner, thinking about parents if you don't stay with them, thinking about someone beloved who left you some time or long time back. I hope this post shall help you cry. :)
roomyheart
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Feb 17, 2019
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This is something I have struggled with, so I culminated a library of movies that I call "emotional laxatives." They are movies that I can't get through without crying, and watching them guarantees the water works will turn on and flow. Once the process begins (like when I hit the part of the movie that makes me lose It) I find it is not as hard the next time I need to cry. Often, people feel that if they start crying, they won't stop. It isn't true, it just feels like it is. My emotional laxative movies bring relief every time! What movies might do this for you?
Anonymous
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Apr 13, 2019
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I've been through that, it can feel really stressful and weird. I remember thinking, why can't I cry, even though I'm sad all of the time? It's really confusing and frustrating. But I find that looking up sad stories online, or watching sad videos of other people can help me just let it out. Maybe it's because I was numb to my own situation and couldn't cry about it anymore, even though I needed to. So then when I would hear about another painful story, I would feel for them, if that makes sense.
When you do feel like your about to cry, just let it happen. Don't hold it in, make sure you are somewhere safe and no one is going to laugh at you. Be alone or with your friend. And when it happens, let it absorb you, even if you cry for hours.
BigFriendlyJosh
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May 16, 2019
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There are some online youtube videos that really induce crying. I've watched some of them and I was happy before I watched them and afterwards I was crying. I don't usually cry either but those youtube videos were pretty sad. Listening to emotional music or war music and daydreaming about something sad can also help you shed a tear. Looking at old pictures of you and your family can also help induce happy tears. Laughter can help induce tears of happiness. It really depends on if you want to happy cry or sad cry. I do tend to cry a lot from laughter but it's also good to have a cry from sadness as well. :)
PositvityScarlet
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Jul 17, 2019
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I can relate to this as I am a person who tends to repress my emotions every time I felt like the emotions are coming up. I bottle my emotions up for a long period of time until I could no longer take it and I explode. This is what I have been doing for years. Recently, a few years back, I found some ways to induce crying and letting it all out. One way is to stare at the fan, where the tears will start to flow from your eyes. Otherwise, I will listen to sad musics or watch sad shows or scenes to let my emotions flow. Letting it all out helps as it can release stress that you have been holding in for a while.
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