Why doesn't taking care of myself come naturally to me?

Taking care of myself never use to come naturally to me because when I was younger no one her taught me how to take care of myself. I grew up in a very rough environment, with a lot of unfriendly faces very far from my family, around a lot of people who hurt me a lot. They didn’t care much about my well being so I was never shown how to take care of myself. I was shown how to do chores and I was shown a lot of cruelty. As I got older I learned what cleanliness was and I learned how to take care of myself and I still am. I’m still learning to get sleep and to feed myself the way I should and I’m still learning to recognize when someone is mistreating me, but the reason taking care of myself wasn’t something I just did, was because no one around me took care of me, or themselves either.

It's because I stay busy in my works and can't find enough time to provide proper amount of care to myself. Although I make plans but due to being in a tough schedule most of the time those plans don't get a happy execution. I feel that if I maintain a good habit formation strategy and pick up good habits also make it a regular practice then I can be able to take care of myself as well as help others with a clear sense of understanding and not making unproductive assumptions while trying to help people. It'll also be a good thing to develop a peaceful mind as well.

I hear you asking why taking care of yourself doesn’t feel natural to you. What things have you tried to practice good self care? I can definitely understand this dilemma as I have often felt the same way. It is difficult to me also. If you’ve had any type of trauma in your life, It can definitely be more difficult to identify your feelings and needs. In what way are you doing a good job of taking care of yourself? In what areas could you grow in? Do you feel you are worthy just as much as others in your life are worthy of taking care of themselves? What is one thing you could do this week to nurture yourself?

I think this question really make me re-evaluate how I take care of myself. I tend to put the needs of others first before mine. I am a kind hearted person therefore it comes with the territory. I feel like when I take care of others, it just makes it more rewarding for me. To be able to see that others are cared for first is like caring for myself also. I also know that you know when you need to listen to your body and care for yourself so that you can continue reaching out to others to care for them.

Sometimes it depends on the situation; if you haven't had the encouragement and support from family and friends, from a partner or potential partner. Sometimes you need to find the thing that motivates you to take care of yourself. Self love is always a factor in these things. It can be hard without the support but if you can seek such support from family, friends or a partner (if you have one) can help, depending on your circumstances. Patience is required when trying to find yourself. If you're not sure of whom you are or meant to be, it can be a contributing factor. I hope this helps.

It most likely has to do with self esteem. If you feel like you are worth nothing and you do not deserve anything good in life you will put others first and not yourself. It is difficult to see and realize your own worth but it is essential in order to have a healthy life, healthy relationships and a healthy mind. Furthermore, how other people have treated you in your life can be a factor as well. When all you know is being treated like you are not worthy of good things someday you will believe it. But you deserve to be happy.

Maybe it's because all your life you put others in front of you, you worry about others health then maybe later that when you think about yours, sometimes it doesn't come naturally because you never took the time out to see if you need anything, or maybe you grow up taking care of a family member so much that no its time to take care of your self you find it really weird to do, sometimes you find it easy to take care of others ininstead of taking care of your self.....like you feel selfish if you took just a min to take care of your self

Taking care of yourself often doesn't come naturally, especially if you're a selfless person who tends to put others' needs before their own. It can be hard to put yourself first when people around you have their own issues, however, self-care is super important. Remember that in order to be there for others, you have to be there for yourself first! Personally, I try to plan self-care days monthly so I can take some time to reflect on how I'm doing and think about my mental health. Prioritizing yourself, even occasionally, is a step in the right direction. I hope this helped!

Well, it really depends on how you perceive the idea of “I take care of myself”. Some people think that “take of myself” means being beautiful, sexy by buying new clothes and makeup, other people think that by ignoring other peoples’ needs and satisfy their own, they are taking good care of themselves. For other people this “task” or “behavior” or “habit” of taking care of themselves means: «do things that make me smile», «surround myself with sane and caring people», «decide for myself and don’t allow others to decide for me» and many more. Of course taking care of yourself includes behaviors that are both physical and mental. Maybe taking care of yourself doesn’t come naturally to you because you focus on things you don’t really need such as makeup or vice versa. Try to figure out what YOU want for YOU. The answer is within you! Good luck :)

Maybe it's because we don't love ourselves in the first place. We keep looking on others' wellbeing and trying to control our futures instead. We never learned how to take care of ourselves. We somehow never learned that we have to take care of ourselves too in order to pour others. Somehow we never knew that we matter. But whoever is struggling thinking if they matter, I want to let them know that you matter. You must be a soul who tries the best for others, who is contantly looking for a more comfortable future. Remember you can't pour from an empty cup. It would be great if you could take step for taking care of yourself. Wish your all the best.