Why doesn't taking care of myself come naturally to me?

Sometimes the concept of self-care may seem like giving into your problems or acknowledging your own weaknesses, which can be intimidating or seem wrong. You may also feel that the idea of self-care seems cheesy or pseudoscientific. Neither of these things is the case. Just go at your own pace and do what you need to do to feel happy if you can.

Taking care of ourselves doesn't come naturally because we tend to think we aren't somehow worthy. But nothing could be further than the truth.

A mirror is like the boundary to the sole. You stand in front of an image but still see a creation of disguise. Your true soul in a mirror is everything hidden to become in your own reflection. Being mannered doesn't come naturally sometimes because our front to ourselves isn't the soul reflection to someone or something else.

I understand this question myself, some days you feel as if you have to force yourself just to get out of bed to go to the bathroom. Not everyone's brains are going to work the same exact way. You just have to find ways to motivate yourself.

I am a very focused person, once I am involved in a task I often get consumed with it for a long time. I forget to take breaks to move my body or even breathe properly! Have you ever noticed we sometimes hold our breath when we are doing something important!? I need to consciously remind myself to take some time for myself and breathe in some fresh air :)

There can be many reasons why self care is a problem for people. Sometimes, we grow up in environments where we are not introduced to good self care patterns. Parents or guardians who struggle with addictions or mental health issues, or regular health issues can be lax in teaching us as children how to do the basic things needed for good self care. Other times, we can constantly be taught and badgered to take care of everyone else before we think of ourselves. We are taught that self care is bad, selfish and we should not take time or put effort into our own well being. Sometimes we honestly just get too busy with everything going on in our life and we forget - or avoid self care because we put it low on our priority list.

I'm not sure I can tell you exactly why taking care of yourself doesn't come naturally. There may be many reasons. So let's talk about it a little more generally. Taking care of our self has to do with self-love. Many people have a natural instinct to nurture a baby or a puppy, others don't. Similarly, some people are naturally more prone to take good care of them selfs than others. At the base of it all seems to be a general notion of knowing that we deserve to be loved and that all we need for that is already within us. Then life and upbringing, our surroundings and conditioning can get into the way of that, too. Maybe we have picked up the idea that we are not worthy. Or someone has told us we are not good in enough. We may have grown up seeing our parents not taking care oft themselves. Whatever the reason. Taking care can be simple. Even doing one thing a day that makes us feel good can be a start. What is that for you today? A bath, a cup of tea? Talking to a friend? Spending a few minutes meditating? Lots of love to you. 7 cups provides lots of tools to take care of your well-being! You are cared for here :)

Understanding why some people develop personalities of givers or takers is deeply complex. We can't ever fully understand the minds and hearts of others, but there are a lot of theories from psychology and philosophy that can help someone ask themselves questions to shed some light on this issue. My personal quick answer to this is that everyone learns- from a very young age- how to survive the best they can. Maybe you learned to give to everyone around you and that somehow protected you on a deep level. Maybe there were messages you internalized about your worth and place in the world. Maybe you had roles models who didn't naturally take care of themselves. Whatever the answer, on some level, not taking care of yourself might have- oddly enough- been your way to survive. It's a big question, and one worth pursuing.

Often times being in distraction is much easier - and not caring for yourself often involves things we would much rather be doing, like watching television and staying in bed for example. Taking care of yourself (properly!) beyond eating, using the bathroom and drinking fluids does not happen naturally. It is a decision you have to make, as hard as that may be. You need to decide to do it, and you need to continuously decide to do it. Eventually you'll find it easier to care for yourself, and also maintain a healthy level of self-care. What's your idea of taking care of yourself? Taking care of yourself is very different to having goals, desires and expectations. When we take away those expectations self-care becomes much simpler. Our mentality and how we treat ourselves is optimum!

Maybe because we are all new here. In life. Even if you’re eighty years old and believe you know more than millions of teenagers, you’re just as clueless. Learning about other’s habits is easy. Finding your own...that’s almost impossible.