Why do I want bad things to happen to me?

This can be a sign of trying to work through something bad that may have occurred previously. It could also be because we feel a need to punish ourselves, for various reasons. Furthermore, if a person has suffered long-lasting abuse, it is what feels familiar to them. And familiar feels safe so it could also be a way to feel safe.

Sometimes you just feel you've had enough and that it will be all better if it all when away, and so leads me to think these type of thoughts, eg pain = a little bit less sadness, loneliness. Then leads me to doing such pain ect ect. Then after the feeling of success or achievement goes by. But sadly after that feeling fades, all the bad ones return, I have had these for only a few years and even though they are complicated to understand I feel I know them so well, like a good friend that come back after a while.

Self-destructive behavior is a concept we've all heard about, but self-destructive ideation that leads to that behavior can take multiple forms. Active desire to harm oneself isn't the only way that negative thoughts manifest - sometimes, just wishing that someone or something else would take the action for us can signal a need for emotional support. These thoughts are not uncommon, but they do require attention. Comb through why these thoughts may be happening by practicing mindfulness and communicating your wishes to someone you trust. Even letting out these thoughts alone can help to disspell them. Look for a friend, and if the thoughts don't go away, communicate with a therapist!

I used to want bad things to happen to me too. Now that I feel better I can see that it might have come from a place of hurt. Your reality on the inside is hurting and suffering. Bad things happening could be a way to make those things inside visible or validated to the outside world. If bad things happen to us, that can also mean that others maybe would want to care of us. Thus, validating our suffering and for us, it's a way to feel loved and cared for. Hopefully this answer can give you insight in how you are feeling.

It may be that you feel the need to be punished for something that may not even be your fault. You may feel guilty for something that you feel you could have prevented or feel that you caused or were responsible for happening. Wanting bad things to happen to you may be a symptom of a deeper problem, perhaps rooted in a childhood trauma or bullying. When bad things have happened a lot in our lives we come to expect it to happen consistently, it evokes familiar feelings and emotions that become a pattern. We begin to anticipate and expect further bad things to happen to us, when they don't we begin to want them to happen to be in the familiar pattern.

There could be a lot of explanations for that. Do you feel more alive when you're feeling down? Do you have something more awareness / inspiration from it? Do you like the stories you can tell the others? Or it could be maybe that you feel like you deserve for it to happen to you. And you think you deserve it because you think you have failed yourself for your Unworthy of something. Another likely that could be reason is maybe also because like self-destruction or suicidal ideation like reasons. like you would like to die, but don't want to do it to yourself.

From my own experience, sometimes I've wanted bad things to happen to me because I wanted to be noticed. I thought that maybe if I got a really bad disease or if someone close to me died that I would somehow have more valid experience in the world. People might take me more seriously, or might admire me for how I handled it. What I came to understand about myself is that it's important to me to be important to others. I often felt overlooked or ignored in my life, so I thought that if my achievements weren't good enough to grab people's attention, maybe something terrible happening to me would.

I have never related to this more, I think its because I would love the attention, and everyone feeling bad for me, I know it sounds horrible but I never get attention , from friends or even my family, I feel neglected all the time and like the only person I can talk to is myself, I guess I feel like if bad things happen to me everyone would feel bad for me and give me the most attention, even if its not true. I also feel like when im upset the thing I think of the most is dying but I wanna see everyones reaction to my death to see if they would cry and etc.

I think sometimes we "want bad things to happen to us" for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it's wanting attention, which is really a cry for help. I always think that if someone is looking for attention, they probably need attention. Sometimes we fantasize about bad things happening because of what will come after. Sometimes it's out of self destructive feelings or behavior. If someone feels unworthy, or they're hurting, they might want to lean into it and embrace the pain. It doesn't mean that there's something fundamentally wrong with them--it means their brain is trying to tell them something.

Bad things are what make the good things distinguishable from bad. Without unhappiness, there would be nothing to show what happiness is.