Why do I want bad things to happen to me?

Sometimes people can have positive associations with negative things happening to them, which can make these "bad things" seem desirable. For instance, if you are sick or injured, people may pay more attention to you, dote on you, or go out of their way to do nice things for you. If you are in mourning, people tend to give you leeway and will often seek to support you. Additionally, many people learn important lessons from some of the worst times in their lives. There are many "bad things" that can happen to a person which can inadvertently have "good", potentially beneficial, or even desirable outcomes. You may want to ask yourself what, if anything, you might see as the upside to "bad things happening" and determine if those outcomes might be incentivizing you to want them.

Oh, this one hits a sore spot. Do you perhaps deal with emotional invalidation? Phrases like, "it's not that bad" or "get over it" fall under that category. Most people usually want something bad to happen to them so that it explains the pain they're going through or serves as proof. Another reason is if the people they hope will be affected by it don't really care for them or show that they do. Sometimes people feel like they need a diagnosis to prove and get through to the people that refuse to see the pain they're going through. It's like some concrete evidence so they can't avoid it any longer, it's no longer "in their heads" and it can also help assure the sufferer that their pain is in fact valid and that they aren't tripping like emotional invalidation and gaslighting will lead them to believe.

The reasons could be endless. I compulsively think about bad things happening to me, ranging from car accidents and injuries to simply tripping over my own two feet. I think one reason may be a want for attention. You might not be receiving enough or the right attention from those around you, and so feel the want or need for something to make you worthwhile of being attended to. And the only way you can get this attention, is if something bad happens to you and they feel sorry and express sympathy to you. Or maybe, you just want to experience a trauma so that it can explain some of your feelings and behaviour; using the bad thing as an outlet for the feelings you already have, but can't explain where they came from or what they are. But why is such a difficult question, as it searches for a reason, which may be one amongst many. No one knows you better than yourself.

Maybe you want bad things to happen because you believe you deserve these bad things to happen to you. Another way to say it is you have a low sense of self-worth. There is a psychological concept called repetition compulsion, where people seek out experiences/situations that validate their personal beliefs about themselves. If you have low self-worth, you will, consciously or unconsciously, want bad things to happen to you because that validates that self belief. The first step in recovering from this is being aware of the psychological processes taking place and then working on how you view yourself. A professional therapist could definitely help you improve your self-worth.

Some time we see something wrong then the reason of that we think that the bad thing is happening to us but actually that is not happening only we think that. We need to think positive as possible.and not give attention to that bad thing and not fight to that bad thinking.then our life will be easy and we will be feel happy.it is my personal experience.if the problem still continue and disturb day to day activity i think need to see professional help. And it is also available on 7 cups so you can find it on your area.thank you

Wanting bad things to happen to yourself. Could derive from various things. When you were a child, if there were childhood wounds that never closed and healed. If people consistently sowed and/or poured negative comments or remarks over your life. That you never healed from. Feeling unworthy and invaluable because of self limiting beliefs can also play a factor in why you want bad things to happen. Wanting to be free but haven’t faced challenges and obstacles that are in your ways; life areas like family, stress. financial hardships, bad relationships and situations. Feeling useless. You are somebody great and you have an amazing purpose to do great things.

This might not reflect your experience, but for me I almost want bad things to happen because I expect them to happen, and I’d rather just get it over with. I grew up in an environment where bad things happened unpredictably but often enough for it to become a fact of life. So I developed hyper-vigilance about anything that might go wrong. Now, even though I am far removed from the that environment, the vigilance remains, and there is almost a part of me that just wants to get it over with. Since these things happened originally when I was a child, where it was hard to make the distinction that a bad thing happening wasn’t my fault, I almost feel I deserve bad things, so again, get it over with already

This is a trauma response! Your brain sometimes guilts you into thinking your life hasn't been hard enough for the emotions you are feeling such as anxiety and depression. I used to imagine my family dying in a car crash and thought-what is wrong with me? I love them! But our brains are complex things and is just trying to make sense of everything going on. When this happens I remind myself that my feelings are valid, my trauma was enough for a lifetime, and I don't need to justify how I feel. Your life doesn't have to be a tragedy.