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How do I let go of my past?

Profile: KACOSMIC
KACOSMIC on Sep 2, 2020
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Making peace with your past is the first step. Nobody walks forward looking back. Nobody walks lighter, carrying the weight of the past on their backs. Nobody walks happy, with the pain of what is gone, aching in the chest. Wake up to reality. What passed, passed! It is no longer there. The only place where the past can still be present is within you. In your mind, I live in your thoughts. The reality calls you to the truth that what happened is behind you. It is when we insist on the opposite, wanting to maintain a situation that has already been, not accepting things the way they happened, wanting to change what is already accomplished, that we end up suffering. This pain is the voice of life, trying to wake us up. Everything happened in the best way that could happen: in other words, the way it was. If the past could have been better, it would have been. Of course, in the face of many situations we have the desire that they would be different from what they were. But, if we analyze everything as it happened, without letting our emotional speak louder, we will see that we acted as we could, that each one of us involved did everything within the conditions we had, that if things did not go as we wanted, they went as we could to be. To insist otherwise is like hitting a wall. We can help shape the future with our attitudes in the present, but as for the past, the only thing we can change is the way we see it. Enough looking back with suffering. Good situations should be remembered fondly. The bad ones with wisdom. You don't have to forget your past. You must come to terms with your past. First accepting that you can no longer change it. Second, accepting the limits that each one had at that time: forgiving yourself and others. Third, realizing that everything happened because of your need for experience: you are neither a victim nor an executioner. Fourth, being grateful for all that this experience can teach you. Fifth, leaving the past where it should be: behind! Open your eyes: there is an infinite world of possibilities ahead. Your past is not your definition, it is your reference for better attitudes and experiences. Making peace with your past is the first step towards better hikes. So, you never hate the experiences that helped shape what you are. A look of wisdom in the face of everything you've been through can be the miracle you need so badly in your life and the key to better experiences! So accept the reality that everything was as it could be. Believe that starting today everything can be better, as long as you are better with yourself. Probably what you wanted would not bring the happiness you thought, but it did bring the learning you needed. When we understand that we need to live certain experiences out of necessity, we understand that there were no culprits, but characters from an important situation for everyone. Those who could not do better one day will learn. Compassion for each one is an attitude of wisdom, of those who can see an event through the eyes of the heart. Leave your past in its place. Allow it to pass. He's gone outside, now he needs to leave inside you. Let go of that weight, let go of that hurt, shake off the dust. LOOK FORWARD: a new and beautiful path presents itself before you.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 17, 2020
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Letting go of the past can be difficult for many people. Past experiance are what make us who we are or give us the mindset we have. Letting go means we need to accept change. Change for some can be just as hard to manage, as we don't know what to expect and change can be unfamiliar to us. Somtimes change can be good, it means we can move on from a bad experiance and allows us space to evaluate our past experiences. It can be challenging to see the reality of a situation when you are involved in it at the time. Stepping back allows us to see it with a freash perspective and from a different view. Letting go of past experianced is not about forgetting them and more about understanding them. These experianced both good and bad can help us to know what it is we want and offer us tools that will allow us to make better choices in the future. With situations such as abuse, the abused will offten blaim themselves for what happened, even after the abuse has ended. However, if you can step back and allow yourself a moment to veiw the situation outside of the box, many come to realise that it was not them who was in the wrong but rather their abuser. We can then learn from this experiance and in turn gain life skils that will allow us to move on. So when you are holding on to the past, take a moment to step out, look at the experiance from another perspective, then you will have a better chance of moving forward with new and better life skils.
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thundergimmick on Sep 30, 2020
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I journal about past trauma and experiences. Getting it out on paper is a relief for me. And I can always go back and see how I felt in that moment and what caused me to feel that way. I try to talk to friends and my spouse about my past. It's not easy but its nice to get it out of my mind and most of the time I feel better about it. If it's about somebody, I'll usually block them on social media so they do not appear on my feed or add list. Meditation helps to remove those negative thoughts.
Profile: MidwesternCalmSeeker
MidwesternCalmSeeker on Oct 18, 2020
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While there is no simple answer to moving beyond a major event or time period that you have already experienced, the answer to the question might just be hiding inside the question. Letting go is important to moving forward. You can do this in many ways, such as forgiving others (even if you do this privately, instead of confronting the other person) or by forgiving yourself. It’s also helpful to remember both the good and the bad memories of the past. It’s easy to dwell on all the good things (or bad things) and forget the rest. This puts a slant on those memories. By being totally honest with yourself about your past, it might allow you to find a way to break down those barriers and live a better version of the future.
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bubblegumPuppy68 on Oct 25, 2020
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How do I let go of my past? What a great question. I am not sure if we ever get to a point that the past won't surface up. The key is to not be reactive and not let it throw us down the rabbit hole. As far as my experiences go, the only way to not allow our past to keep us entangled in dispair, quilt and shame is to go back and act like a detective over all the things that caused us to be wounded. Some of us should not do this without the help of a professional. Especially if there were traumatic events that happened. But for others who want to try to get to the root or the core of why am I hurting still from my past it involves getting involved with your own emotional wellness. Knowledge is power and the more you are willing to invest in your self the better you will begin to feel as you begin to expose all that stinking thinking that holds us back from our recovery. Inner Child therapy is a great technique. If you feel that you would rather get help so they can guild you into digging and finding the answers that are ready within us.
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Peacevibes00 on Nov 14, 2020
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Figuring out why moving on from the past is necessary? Identifying your emotional habits and getting of harmful habits if you have! Focussing your mind and in your personal growth. Surrounding yourself with positive person. While Letting go of the past, find something you want to serve that is greater than yourself. Live for your family, your community, and humanity. Go beyond yourself. The secret to living is giving. Surround yourself with positive person and nature like a small garden. Living with nature heals you faster. Fill your mind with empowering stories. Try meditation and yoga or mindfulness exercises. Be gentle with yourself.
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Anonymous on Nov 19, 2020
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Letting go of the past doesn't necessarily come from forgetting and or trying to pretend like it had not happen. I believe letting go of our own pasts come from us facing it directly. What was about the past that you can't seem to let go of? Is it really that important/dear to you? How much of it is your assumptions/opinions and how much of it was what you inflicted on yourself? Questions like this are something you should consider and slowly face the past head on. Once you finally get a hold of those basic things, and I definitely know it will take a lot of time and thinking, you'll come to a conclusion for sure. You'll start to accept that it did happen, it had happened and there's nothing you can do about it, and nothing you need to do about it. Dwelling and not facing the past is what leaves you in the past. Accept and embrace it. Take care of yourself, hope this helped you out!
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Anonymous on Nov 26, 2020
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Honestly there some aspects of your life that you unfortunately cannot necessarily let go of. But to being able to put it behind you and to only focus on what's ahead of you can be done. To be able to focus on what's ahead of you you don't need to bury yourself into to much, because drowning yourself in a multitude things is not healthy. But focusing on things that you love and still care about can really change perspective on some things. Focusing on what you love to do will kind of melt everything else away and allow for you to focus on the future instead of the past
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Anonymous on Dec 3, 2020
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Somthimes we don't have control over situations. Things that are supposed to happen, happens. What is leftover is regret and guilt. I just stopped thinking about the things that are making my life difficult and focused on the things that can improve the help me to grow. First step towards moving on is not expecting any sorry or regret from the person/s those who hurt you in past. The only solution to anger is to confront and forgive. If you feel someone has hurt you, communicate the hurt to them. Just communicate. Don’t expect anything from them…not even an apology. Then you must forgive them. Only then can you truly move on from the past and focus on your present. Self Confidence is the anecdote to self-pity. Self-pity is the most worthless amongst all emotions and must be eliminated as early as possible. If we start believing in our victim complex, then there will be no end to our problems in life. The understanding of one’s potential will help us move on to greater passions in life which will inspire us to move on and move ahead.
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Anonymous on Dec 30, 2020
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Sometimes it can be hard for us to move on from the events of our past. It is important to realize that we don't have to "let go" of our past as much as understand it, respect it, thank it for impacting us, and decide to move forward. We don't have power over the things that have already happened to us, but we do have the power to reframe them and choose how we want to relate to them. You don't have to cut that part of your life out of you, instead, perhaps you could learn from it, integrate it, and choose to relate to it as something that allowed for change, helped you grow, or allowed for different things or people to move into or out of your life.
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