Whats the best way to forget painful memories and a person who hurt me?

Do things, have fun and live an exciting life. It is hard to care about things from the past if you are busy having fun and making things happen in the present moment. If you need to talk about it with a listener here to let it go, go ahead. But after that, just go on with life as normal. Life goes on.

Opening yourself for a new circle of your life. Accepting what has happened and knowing that you deserve better. I know that is not easy like talking, but why not give a chance for a new beginning? There is no need for data to renew. There are certain moments in life that are the same markers of truth that signal or close a cycle, whether acceptable or not. We need to develop our “inner listening” and through our capacity for understanding, lucidity and sensitivity to accept that something is already deteriorating. From this perception, it is possible to reposition and readapt to welcome the "new", with its infinite possibilities. Often, life does not invite, but changes are requested for our own progress, sending signals that we often refuse to admit and that have a bigger request: move on to a next step. We are not aware of these environmental readings or simply as ignored, as we are not interested in getting out of our comfort zone, in our comfort zone, even if deteriorated. We are here, attached at any cost. We need to deviate from what is deteriorating, move on and trust in the generosity of life. When life signals that a cycle is closing, accept the fact and take the opportunity to renew your hopes, giving yourself the opportunity to create new purposes and life projects. Readaptation is not always an easy process, as we expend a lot of emotional energy in reorganizing internal “chaos”. On the other hand, this is also a rich time to start the precious movement of self-assessment and to revalidate the place that we occupy or that we wish to occupy in the world. When a cycle closes, it is because we need to do some learning in that context, to move on to the next stage. The transitory processes of life are not exactly ephemeral, but are potentially creative stages. Life is flow, it is movement; it is the denial of the stagnation of our archaic beliefs and perceptions as absolute truths that have fallen to the ground. Nothing is definitive, much less our property. We believe that things and people are ours. There are no guarantees in life or expiration dates. With the advent of a new phase, new opportunities begin. In contact with contingencies that now provide the flowering of a new consciousness, we will be allowed a greater clarity of facts. All of this will give us the opportunity to create the reality that we so desire and that we are directly responsible for. This creative movement allows us to have true and profound reflections that lead us to give new meanings to our existence, if we give up what is gone and welcome the new possibilities. Our life today is a consequence of attitudes, actions, words and thoughts from the past. Therefore, let us assert a different reality today through a different posture now. We need to eliminate aspects, things and attitudes that do not provide us with growth, that add nothing to us and that can even create obstacles. It is necessary to recycle our emotional garbage, transmute negative feelings and learn to better deal with our concerns and limitations in order to be lighter in a new life cycle. In order for there to be real renewal, from the inside out, it is essential to reevaluate our perception of the facts, but the main thing for any first step is to accept ourselves as we are, this moment of "insights" for any real change, because from the self-acceptance, we can promote the changes that are necessary. So, undress inside, remove your masks, look yourself in the face. Sometimes we need to change routes and trajectories, resulting from our reevaluations of what no longer serves us. But nothing has been lost at all: we have become more lived, more capable and improved. At each stage of life we ​​bet on that reality and invest the best we can in it. When we are faced with some circumstances, we see how now everything that has been lived does not make sense anymore: at this moment we realize that we are in a new stage of life. Our greatest achievement is to transmute life itself in a constant process of evolution and recreation of ourselves, putting into practice the values ​​we need to nurture, improving us in all perspectives and mainly learning from the mistakes of the past. We are itinerant beings in the trajectory of life and we are here to learn, to evolve. We can only be reborn to a new reality if we have the symbolic capacity to strip ourselves of the past, accept the symbolic deaths of the cycles that is the very wisdom of life. Recreate yourself. Reborn. reinvent itself. Overcome yourself. We, eternal individuals of becoming, are always in the process of reflecting on our experiences to obtain the wisdom we need and which in this world is never enough. The reflections must be continuous as a preventive means so as not to be faced with crises that could be avoided, when we try in some way to cling to something that is already gone. The closing of a cycle gives us the opportunity to review, reframe and give a new feeling gone into life itself, putting into practice a new project according to our reality and needs. Staying in a cycle that has already closed is highly exhausting, in addition to paying a high price for this. Being open, available and receptive to new opportunities and experiences is what life proposes to us at the end of each stage. We are often not living, but experiencing survival, and this is not what we want. We want to have a full and quality life, so letting go of what is already eaten is not a sign of cowardice, but of courage. Courage to take a new step. Courage to continue to have faith in life, despite everything.

Writing down your memories, addressing those memories and try turning that hurt around into a positive that you know someone won't be able to hurt you like that again due to the life experience you have gained through that person you have learnt how to better yourself. Then take those memories and put them in a bin and try to let go.

in my own experience, moving on has always been difficult however finding someone to replace that person or finding a new hobbie can really help

Its very very hard to, and I speak from experience. they keep cropping up at the worst times, like a jumpscare in a movie, making you cringe. Try and think of other things, try and forget about it

Meet new people who are willing to help you out and also bring you joy whenever you hang out with them! In addition, you can find an activity/hobby that you enjoy doing (drawing, a sport, playing an instrument, etc.) and really focus on it, which will take your mind off of these painful memories.

Figure out ways to make yourself happy or even content a hobby or a new interest. I found out that drawing or listening to music find my happy place where I feel calm. If you make new memories try to find something you truly can enjoy. understanding who you are as a person can be difficult but once I learned more about myself I began to actually cope better.

the best way is to make your self busy, create new fun memories with your friends, even try and make some new friends. try out new things and surely those negative memories will turn into experiences not pain.