Whats the best way to forget painful memories and a person who hurt me?

Whats the best way to forget....? People tend to think that, there has to be a certain method or technique for doing something especially when it comes to emotions and what we feel inside. We try to, lets say, ''fix'' this problem by doing something in the physical world. We are trying to tighten a screw on the outside when the ''fixing'' needs to be done on the inside. There are no screws on the inside. We do not forget, we instead move on from the horrible experience that happened to us. The problem comes when we think. We start exaggerating the thoughts, and these thoughts begin to manifest the more you think, and the worst part is that you start creating feelings and emotions based on these thoughts that you have created which feels real. Does the situation exist? Is it real? Or is it the past? Is it something that has happened to you but you keep remembering it consciously? Everything that has happened to us should not be forgotten, instead should be realised that these are experiences, from which many people go through their own problems. These things that happen, whether good or bad, are out of control. Can you control when something good or bad will happen to you? can you? The only thing in control on this planet and even universe is You. You can react in a certain way and feel a certain way simply by being conscious of yourself and aware of your surroundings. Accepting that everything outside you is out of your control is key, it is, so to say, the first step to moving on. Forgiving the person who has done the harm to you, whether physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually is the process of letting go. Now many people say: ''There is no way I can forgive him after what he has done to me!''. But people do not understand that, forgiveness has nothing to do about the other person. Does it? Does forgiveness affect the other person in any way? Forgiveness is setting yourself free from the burden that the other person carries, you do it because you want to move on. You hold onto the memory(which is the past, it does not exist anymore) of the pain and manifest it into reality because you were hurt and do not understand why. Do you know how your thyroid gland works? Will your thyroid gland stop working if you dont understand it? I sure hope it doesnt because that would be a disaster. Your understanding of something does not change how it works. Your thyroid gland does not work any better than a doctors. Understanding is not important because, understanding - why this - or -why that- will not solve the situation. Your intentions within yourself and willingness to move on from the pain does, and forgiveness is important because you set yourself free from the pain which has happened and being continuously remembered. After all, it is the problems that make you grow into a stronger person, not the easy ones. So learn from these experiences and let go of all suffering. Joy is a natural phenomenon. Misery is your creation.

Just because they've hurt you and you've had painful memories together, doesn't mean that you deserve to be hurt and treated badly. No one deserves to be treated as someone less than a human. If he/she doesn't love you like how you should be love, remember that you still have family and friends to love and nurture you. Learn to love yourself by staying busy and keeping your life organised, full of little rewarding things (like going out for tea, going shopping, picking up a new hobby). You will never truly "forget" the hurtful days, but there will be one day when you'll shine through the dark days and not be dragged down by them. Learn from the past and be thankful -- it's the best you can do.