Why don't they understand me?

Not everyone gets you. you are yourself. You are an expert on yourself. Sometimes, they don't have your issues so they don't really get it.

Everyone has a different mindframe and mentality. No two people think alike, though some think similarly. As with any other trait, your way of thinking was shaped by your environment and the actions of people around you, by your genetics, and grows and develops as you do. Therefore, it is common to feel as though other people don't understand you, because no one is going to think the way you do. Sometimes, people just can't comprehend the way you think, why you do the things you do. Other times, that person doesn't want to understand you, because they don't want to take the time to listen and empathize, or they don't know how to do so. If you want someone to understand you, you could talk to them when they are calm and willing to listen, and ask them to try to put themselves in your shoes. If someone is not willing to do so when asked, that is probably not a good relationship to have and you should end it. This, of course, does not work with family members; you have to love and tolerate each other indefinitely. However, it is worth a try.

We forget sometimes that everyone is different, and we are all inside our own heads. Our experiences are all different and our thoughts are different. We feel misunderstood when it really may be that we need to communicate more clearly and have patience with each other.

If someone doesn’t understand me they are possibly applying their set of expectations on me and want me to be someone I’m not and to fit into a prefabricated mold. If this is the case I will continually fail to meet those expectations and probably not be understood. Often, we don’t take into account a person’s background, current stresses, personality, etc when trying to understand them. It’s important to get to know the person before judging or better yet don’t judge at all. If we try to just accept the person for who they are and where they’ve been understanding will follow.

Persons interactions are based on each others personal characteristics. One of individual differences is the differences in world view. Some people see the trees and some people see the forest. These differences interfere with understanding each other.

You're a complicated person :o) Everyone is. Chances are they want to understand you, and they need some opportunities to. No one is going to be able to understand you quickly, and some people will take more time than others to understand you. Their own experiences and knowledge and personality will impact how easily they empathize with you. If you can, try to be a little patient in explaining yourself. Even if they don't understand you, if they want to, they care for you, and just might need a little more time to fully comprehend.

Different people understand others in different ways. Maybe you will need to explain to them on what you are trying to get them to understand in their understanding.

They don't understand you as they are either ignorant or they are yet to find an aspect of your character that they identify with or are familiar with.

Some people will never understand you in this life. Most don't even understand themselves. The important thing is that you know yourself, and surround yourself with people that do too.