Why don't they understand me?

No one can understand you the way you understand yourself, because they're not you. It doesn't mean that they don't care about you. Or don't want to help. Often time they want the good for us, but they fail to understand us. They don't think like us. And it's totally okay. It's okay if they don't understand you, you know what's best for you. But if you know you're doing wrong and still persist on doing it, then it may be that other are understanding you but you're not understanding yourself. There's a fine line between whats good and what's not. Some people are trying to understand us, others are just forcing their opinions on us.

Sometimes we can feel misunderstood by the people around us. This can feel particularly frustrating if we feel we are doing all we can to express ourselves honestly and openly but the people around us just don't seem to understand. In times like these, it is often a good idea to get to know ourselves really well. If you feel comfortable with this approach, try to take note of your motivations, your goals, what you want out of life, who you want to be, and why certain things are important to you. When you know yourself and have clarity on the things that matter to you, you are better able to communicate those parts of you with the people around you. If they still do not understand, perhaps it is simply that you have not yet found the people who can relate to you. Don't give up in your pursuit! Finding people who understand you and communicating in a way that can be understood both take time, but putting in the effort is worth it!

Because each of us is extremely different. While there are outright toxic people out there, most of the time, people are having a hard time with their minds clouded with culture-induced prejudices, other preconceived notions, and their personal problem, Understanding you is something they don't have the energy to be bothered about, or if they are toxic like I said, they just don't try to at all. Maybe you can try explaining to them exactly what you feel. If they are still unbothered, you have all freedom to be angry at them or to distance yourself from them. It's all up to you. But no matter what, I hope everything gets sorted soon and that you have a good day.

Sometimes people can't fully understand someone else partly because they have never felt whatever it is that you are feeling. Or it could be at a point that they have never felt before if they have experienced it and don't know that that feeling or thing can go to that extreme. Also, if it is something that is about a controversial topic (religion, LGBTQ+, etc.), some people have grown up with whatever it is that they believe or have accustomed to believe and it is hard for them to fully understand why you are on that side. I personally am like one of those people, and it is hard to see why people see that way and not the way that I am, but if everyone understands each other or believes the same thing that everyone else believes, than this world will be really boring

They may not understand you as they have not been through what you are experiencing. When no one is busy and no one is stressed, sit down, tell them how you feel and what you are going through. Do it when everyone is calm in order for people to understand. If people haven't been through what you have, it is difficult to understand. If you do it when everyone is settled, it will make it easier to have sympathy. Make sure you got some sort of plan to make it easier for you and make you feel more confident and prepared.

Personal matters aren't always easy to understand from another person's perspective, but it also depends on the environment - are you around people who want to support? Are you trapped in a culture that prohibits vulnerability? I know that in order for me to be understood, I had to keep trying and finding the right people who would - that meant there was a lot who didn't understand, and that lowered my worth... a lot. I don't think I could get over that, but what helps is knowing that the ratio for help/no help can vary, and I use that as my anchor to keep me going. I hope you find a way to find the "right" people to understand you.

I can pick up that you are feeling really disheartened, confused and upset that people do not understand you. It can be an isolating feeling to feel misunderstood by others and frustrating when you do not know the reasoning if any behind how they think. You may want to ask yourself what you would like people to understand about you. Everyone has a different mind-frame and mentality. But does this make any one person right or wrong? Does this make any person superior or inferior than the other? You may look at the world and find that all these people fit in with the popular notions, thoughts, ideas and feelings. But out of the popular opinions there are people out there that do not think alike. As with any other trait, your way of thinking was shaped by your environment and the actions of people around you (family, genetics). You may want to ask yourself why it matters that others think differently from you or that you think differently from them. Are finding common interests, thoughts and beliefs a way to feel less lonely for you? There are many possible reasons why people cannot understand someone actions, intentions, thoughts and feeling. This can be miscommunication, lack of empathy or they are misreading the verbal and non-verbal cues or that they are just take a while to warm up to others. Misunderstandings are better to clear once a person is calm and willing to listen. Discussion of your own thoughts, feeling with this person in a non-judgmental, assertive way may be for you if you are interested in resolving any conflict within any relationship. A common mistake people make is to use “You did this” statements which can encourage the person to be defensive. You can think what positive action and intention you wanted them to demonstrate. For example, you would want someone who was disorganized to be more organized. If wanting further support please do not hesitate to communicate with one of the listeners or therapists on our site.

Feeling like someone does not understand you can be such a tough feeling. I hear you. Sometimes people do not understand, as they have not been in the same spot as you. We never can fully understand what anyone is feeling because we all cope and feel emotions in different ways. its definitely frustrating when people do not understand us or are not helpful. I hear you. Being understood is a great feeling and I understand you want that feeling. Know that 7 cups is here for you, and we will validate your emotions and feelings, We may not understand completely but we are here to listen and help the best we can

I always feel my parents are not understanding me because they have always do something that annoys me or assume my feeling all by their own. However, when I grew older, I start to know that I have to express my thoughts in order for them to understand me. I have to express my emotion and expose my vulnerabilities to them. In friendship, I also feel like my friends do not understand me at all. However, when I try to communicate my feelings instead of pretending everything is fine, I feel that my friends grow closer and closer to me. That is when I realize I have to communicate effectively in order for people to understand me.

Sometimes, it's just hard for people to understand and empathize with other feelings, try to make an emotional connection, give them some time, and create an environment that allows you both to understand each other. if you want someone to understand you, explain your emotions in the best way they can understand, mostly directly point out what are you feeling, what makes you feel in that way. Sometimes we get overwhelmed by our emotions and others just can't understand it, In such cases, it's better to share what is important and significant, meaning what they should know that could help you or make you feel better.