Why don't they understand me?

All people may listen to you but not all of them will understand you or your situation. Some people do not understand you maybe because they haven't been what you have been through or they haven't been in your situation, or they are just not open minded enough to understand what you've been through or they just don't really understand at all. Everybody will listen but not everybody will understand or can not understand maybe because they haven't experienced the worse that the world can give or they just refused to understand you because they have not been on your situation.

There isn't a simple answer. There are so many answers out there that honestly you'll feel lost and confused but that's okay. Maybe they don't understand who you are because they're not putting in the effort or want to believe when they believe but it's not to say we don't put up our own walls. Tall, stone cold walls that are almost impossible to climb. It’s not only up to them to try and understand us but it works both ways. To be vulnerable is scary - trust me i know - but it’s okay because there’s always someone out there who is willing to accept all of you. The good and the bad. It may not be tomorrow or in the next 5 years but trust me… they’ll be there and it would be worth while.

TL;DR: simply put, because they aren't you. Everyone is different. We all "know" this, but often don't understand it in our heart. Everyone around us has their own feelings, their own experience, and it adds up to living in a different world. Understanding is using our different experience to try and connect. Reaching from different starting points, trying to find the same conclusion. Sometimes we can walk different paths and reach each other, and then we say we understand. Sometimes we diverge along the way. If we take in to account that everyone is living in a different world, everyone is walking a different path, and relate to people using experiences we shared, maybe for a short while we can see the same view.

Everybody is different. Think of it in terms of music. I may be a rock kind of person, and you may be an indie kind of person. No two tastes are the same. However, there are often cases where the general consensus is a single taste, such as Billie eilish. These people are so much easier for others to get along with because they see eye to eye. You with your indie tastes can’t understand them, and they can’t understand you. That doesn’t go to say one of you is in the wrong, you can’t punish someone for how they were made, what’s important is how one overcomes those differences. There will always be people afraid of change, something beyond what they’ve always known and will simply dismiss you. But look for those who see contrast as beauty. Personally, I seek people who vary from me because I find it easier to engage in conversation with things I have yet to learn rather than what I am already aware of, it prevents a loop of bland conversation and expands my horizon. One day you will meet people who see you as an opportunity to learn new things, you’re fresh and intriguing in their eyes and those people always exist.

This is a hard one. Being understood by one person is amazing, yet alone a second person or even a large group! It is sometimes hard to understand others and be understood as a person, whether it be to understand actions or feelings, or in general needing/wanting to be understood. It can be hard when others can't (or sometimes) won't - it's just something that many people seem to struggle with, unfortunately. Understanding yourself first of all is very important - it's like people say, you cannot love without loving yourself, and in this instance, it could be very similar.

It takes time, these things cannot be rushed. Understand they might feel the same way. Everyone goes through things, there's always someone to talk to you if you ever need it. I'll always be here if you need someone to talk to, please dont feel pressured into telling me things that may upset you. Tell me when you feel ready. Sometimes i also feel misunderstood, it's hard to carry on when you feel like the only person that you can rely on. It's a lot to manage by yourself, i hope one day you will see the amazing person you are xx

Sometimes, to understand ourselves, we need to delve deeper and look into ourselves. We blame people because they fail to understand us, and we blame the situation because it doesn't turn out like we hope to be. Most of the time, we find ourselves to blame outside world for all the troubles or problems we have. We think that all those worries, fears, and anger are from outside world, not realizing that all of those comes within you, from not be able to accept what happened and let go of it. The one who can understand yourself the best is only you, and the one who can make yourself truly happy is you :)

Some or most times, we can't really comprehend the actions of others. People might seem like they are quite laid back, but they at times behave completely different from the said "character". The same scenario applies for us, just like how we cant understand others at times, they also can't understand us or our opinions. This mutual " not understanding " stems from the fact that they haven't gone through the same things as I have. The way people respond are cumulative to how things have been in the past and the present and also in accordance to the varying degree of impact every situation has on a person. And this is basically why others cant understand you and vice-versa.

Not everyone thinks the same, find the ones who understand and support you, with those type of friend nothing will be able to stop your goals in.

Each and every person has a different competence level of understanding. Somethings are easy for some while difficult for others. When you feel that someone doesn't understand you it's because they see you differently than how you see yourself and others and they aren't on the same page as you. When this happens it might get difficult to be around those but what can be done is understand and support yourself when you think nobody is, if you think there might be alternatives on how things can be done, try that. It's nor you neither them, it is just the way things are and they will keep changing.