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Why do they put so much pressure on me even though I do my best?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 30, 2015
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It is their way of showing you how much they care. Parents and loved ones that are older than us often show their love in ways in which we young people cannot understand.
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Anonymous on Oct 17, 2016
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Although the common answer would be that they are "simply worried about you," and they "only want what's best," it's important to recognize that they also might have their reasons other than that. The pressure to do well, may be their attempt to motivate you to do your best. However, because they are not you, they may not realize the added stress that they have put onto you. It's important to communicate with the other party, and to hopefully come to a conclusion which satisfies both parties.
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insightfulPurple24 on Jan 31, 2015
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Maybe the communication is poor between you and the one who puts pressure on you. You must share them what you feel so that they would know how you are taking the challenges that come into your life.
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undercoverloverthatxx on Feb 15, 2015
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The best thing to do is to give yourself time to relax. You are already doing the best you can, you can't do more than that. Keep you head high and pressure yourself only in a positive way
Profile: Freebirdie
Freebirdie on Apr 25, 2016
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Maybe you're think they put so much pressure on you. One feeling anyone who does their best has is this because they think they have to maintain their position. Don't be so uptight with yourself and if you think they're being uptight with you then don't let them affect you. Set yourself free, have fun
Profile: WonderlandKid3
WonderlandKid3 on Jan 29, 2015
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Maybe they are putting so much pressure on you because they don't realize it? Perhaps try talking to them about how much pressure they're putting on you.
Profile: PashT007
PashT007 on Apr 10, 2015
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People don't understand that their expectations are sometimes realistic and their wants aren't always what the reality of someone's life will be. Continue to do your best because in the end, that is what truly counts.
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Anonymous on Nov 7, 2015
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Oh man, I've been there and it was terrible. When I couldn't bear it any more, I just told my parents up-front that I was doing my best and I didn't need any pressure/motivation/whatever from them. I've learnt to take it easy and take difficulties in my stride. Hope this helps.
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Alexisheretohelpyou2 on Jan 31, 2017
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Whether its parents or at a workplace, people will push you to your limits because they believe you have so much more potential than you give yourself credit for. Your parents (or boss) just want you to succeed in life, and though it's great they care about you like that, they shouldn't make you feel too stressed out. Because if you get too stressed out, you lose the will to try. Here's a quote from one of my favorite parenting author: "So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time! We think if we don't nip it in the bud, it will escalate and we will lose control. Let go of that unfounded fear and give your child permission to be human. We all have days like that. None of us are perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves. All of the punishments you could throw at them will not stamp out their humanity..." What this means is, though they want your best intentions, they shouldn't hold you to a higher level than they can attain. They just do it out of love; tough, stressful, love.
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WorldChanger111 on Jul 11, 2017
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Only you know how much you put into something. Although you are putting in your best, others may not see if that way. If you know you are putting in your best and doing everything you can, that is what really matters at the end of the day.
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