Why do I always think my husband is cheating on me?

You have a clear lack of trust towards him, you should talk to him about it. Maybe life has showed you lot of situations in which your trust was tested and you were let down. Communication is the key for a succesful relationship.

Either deep down you know something doesn't feel quite right or you've been hurt before which makes it hard to trust again. Either way, both are valid responses, but the question is which one is it? When my husband cheated he acted guilty over small things. But when we were working through it I was still convinced he was cheating. It turns out he wasn't but the damage was done. Asking is the only way to truly find out. Then depending on his answer, you can either choose to believe him and work on the root cause of your distrust or investigate further.

You might be having a past relationship in which your partner cheated you, that leads to person subconsciously worry that your present one is cheating you too. You can improve this by working on self love and confidence. When you doubt yourself, you might feel that you are not good enough, so that makes you think that your husband might be 'seeing someone better' another thing that can be done is to talk to him about it, and he'll clear any misunderstanding or doubt you have. Talking about the things that worry you or affects your relationship is the key.

You are not alone in this thought. Many wifes do so. The true reason unfortunately or fortunately is not only on your husband account. You are a couple. Hence, all that is happened inside your couple is responsibility of both. The only way to resolve the issue is to start discuss the situation. Nobody can tell you single "true" about your story. It does not matter what you say or ask. "How" matters a lot. Try to avoid blaming your partner. Express your feelings and concerns. The answer or solution will come gradually through continuous discussion. It is hard to stay calm in such sensitive situation. But cold brain will help you on the way.

I say the biggest reason you think your husband is cheating is because you dont trust him. Regardless of what he has done it boils down to trust. Think of the reasons why the trust between you is broken. If you can find that answer you will either see more clearly that there is either a good chance he is cheating or perhaps see you have an over active imagination. Also have you tried asking him if he is or if he thinks about cheating. You may get a lie, but at least you can attempt to read his body language.

This can be a very unpleasant thought and for sure it is really hard for you to manage it! A very important aspect of relationships is communication. It should be sincere and mature about every aspect of your lives that you two want to discuss. If there aren't any real reasons for your thoughts it is possible to have them because your own insecurities related to various aspects of yourself and your life. If these thoughts are troubling your everyday activities or cause you continuous stress it would be helpful to address to a therapist, maybe a couple therapist.

It's a sense of insecurity within ourselves or something we've experienced in past relationships that brings us doubt. I remember when I was personally cheated on for the first time I thought I would never get over it or be able to trust again and partially, in a way I was correct. It's also little things they may do that may appear suspicious to you but it never means that they 100% are unless you've got proper evidence or proof in which you know for a fact that they are cheating on you. Most of the time however, it's because we underestimate ourselves and how good we are or can be compared to others that we may believe are better, leading us to be left with doubt about our importance to the other person.

I feel that thoughts about cheating occur when there's a lack of trust in the relationship. Cheating is the symptom, not the root cause of the issue. A good exercise I recommend: Every time these thoughts would go through your head, accept them (because these are your thoughts) and think how you can improve the trust in your relationship. It's not infidelity that sabotages the relationship, infidelity may or may not exist. But the things that hurt you are the thoughts of infidelity, of cheating, the feelings of insecurity. By working on these each time they occur, you have ample opportunities of building trust and developing the relationship.

I have dealt with those same fears in the past. It boiled down to taking care of me and respecting myself as well as acknowledging my feelings. I felt better as a partner when I did those things. I also learned I can only control and be responsible for my own behavior so I stopped worrying so much. I read books on self esteem and also started some activities to reduce stress and meditation. I also connected with an online support community and ended up volunteering for them. It made me feel good and purposeful and I stopped worrying about my partners cheating a lot. It actually helped heal our relationship and help us grow stronger.

Having fear of infidelity by our spouses is a normal thought in married couples. Have had them myself! It can be because of anxiety, past relationships with an issue of cheating, etc. Sometimes thoughts can become obsessive and leads to us thinking that it is the absolute truth. When we feel this way, we might try to find reasons to prove ourselves right, but we also want it to be wrong. If we want to confront it, we're afraid of them assuming we're accusing them of cheating and they feel there is no trust. It's normal to want your marriage to be a solid bond and believe that it is. If you're feeling anxious or this thought seems to be the only one that lingers, use the anxious thought guide to help you take this thought step by step and find the reasonable thoughts and filter out the obsessive ones!