Why do I always have to be the "perfect" child who has to show that I have no problems even though I do because my mom has enough stress on her hands?

Being strong for your parents is an admirable factor. But always remember that you are also only human too. Make sure you have some1 to talk to to help you in your issues and problems.

It is difficult to sacrifice your feelings for someone else's. Perhaps, she doesn't understand what you are going through and has made assumptions in her mind that give you this exact feeling. I shared the same feelings and until I told her how I felt and what I sought from her. Through a constructive conversation - we rekindled and we became more mindful with each other.

Sometimes I feel as though as human beings, we try to spare others of burdens we feel we can control, but in doing so we just end up loading so much onto ourselves. I think it is important to acknowledge where you can make a difference in somebody’s life but I think you should also consider what that means for yours. We’re all human beings and sometimes we just need someone to listen. We need to show what we are feeling to better understand it. And that is okay. At least, I have come to learn this in my life/

I understand your frustration. It’s takes a lot of time and energy to try and be the “perfect” child. It sounds like to me you feel you If you express to your mom how you really feel that you may become a burden to her. That’s not true. I understand that you want to alleviate any stress your mom is currently experiencing by portraying to be perfect. You are not alone. Many of us feel the pressure of having to be perfect in some capacity to make our parents happy and proud. However, masking the truth, hiding the hurt, that will not only hurt you but hurt your mother as well. Have you tried talking to her about how you really feel? I know it may seem challenging and terrifying to think about the unknown. Being a mother myself, I honestly can say that I would feel heart broken if my children didn’t feel comfortable coming to me about what they are going through, the good or the bad. We all have stressors. If you don’t feel comfortable talking face to face with her yet, try writing tour feelings down on paper first. Tru to convey the message as clearly as possible then give your mom the note. Try to be as honest and kind as you can and give it to your mom whenever you are ready.