Why am I not good enough for my parents?

Hello there. In my experience, my parents are the hardest people that I try to please in my life, this includes teachers, coaches, bosses and more. Everything would be a fight with my parents, everything including grades in school, my social life, work life and everything in between. What I have learned though out my life is as long as I work hard and I do everything that I want to do in my life, that it does not matter what other people think. I know it might be hard to develop this mentality, as most people want to please their parents, if you work hard and accomplish everything you want to, your parents will be proud of you even if they don’t show it.

No one is not good enough for their parents. Some parents are just not good at raising children, or just don't understand children. They don't always mean it that way, but some just have a hard time accepting their children, because they are not the way they want them to be. Some parents abuse their children, even though they don't notice. Everyone deserves good parents, but some parents are just not good parents. And everyone makes mistakes, also parents. So I hope your parents will learn to accept you as you are. If not: you are valid, you deserve your dreams, and you are loved.

You are a HUMAN, just like everyone else. If your parents are saying taht you are not "NOT GOOD ENOUGH", it means they are comparing you to someone else. Someone who is not YOU. No one is perfect, neither your parents are, neither the person they are comparing you to. Some people are never satisfied, no matter how good you are, you won't be able to satisfy them. But, you can always keep improving yourselg, not by comparing with others, but yourself. Make yourself a better person everyday. Be a better person than what you were yesterday. And most importantly.... STAY HAPPY :)

Sometimes it can feel like you're never good enough for your parents, but the truth can be far, far from this. Your parents love you, they feel unconditional love for you, but they may be lousy in expressing that love and appreciation towards you. The most you can do is be yourself, do not work too hard to please your parents. If you are happy, and if you work hard for something which truly matters to you, then that is your personal success. Sometimes we never feel good enough for people, and sometimes those people hold high standards because they care for you and they KNOW that you can always have more room towards improvement :) I hope that helped

Why do you think you are not enough? Have you talked to them about your feeling? It might be just a feeling, not a reality. If they behave the way you feel this, you need to talk to them in an appropriate time, talk to them calmly and peaceful. They may not be aware of this and talking to them help them to understand what they cannot see now. I think this is helpful to discuss their expectations and yours with your parents. Once you have an agreement on your goals you all will thrive for achieving them and they will assist you instead of making you more nervous.

Without knowing your parents, or understanding their feelings and motives, this can be a difficult question to answer accurately. However, it is an incredibly important question nonetheless, because it implies a feeling of "not measuring up". Maybe your parents want the best for you, maybe they want you to have more options available to you than they had when they were starting out, maybe they have high standards. Without speaking to them, we simply can't know and can only guess at what they might be thinking. In any case, it is important for you to know that you are important and matter regardless of what any other person thinks of you, regardless of what they expect of you, regardless of the expectations you meet or don't meet, regardless of what you are capable of, and regardless of how much you accomplish. Your worth is intrinsic to your being. You have worth whether you succeed in the ambitions of your life or not. You have worth because you "are". You are worthy. Acknowledging this can help you feel less emotional upheaval about "not being good enough" for specific people's standards because you will see that you are enough just as you are.

your parents may have several expectations for you - based on their experience and their wants and needs. sometimes what you are doing may not seem like much in their eyes, just because they want something different. but that does not mean at all that you are not actually good enough. you are doing great for where you are in your position of life right now. and you should keep trying to get higher. but meeting parents' or teachers' expectations can be hard and should not be something you stress too much over, is what i personally think. you just do you!

Parents have high expectations usually because either their parents held them to the same standards that they expect out of us or the complete opposite: their parents were too easy going or did not care much. The way our parents are brought up help influence how they raise their children, whether they want to continue to be strict like/unlike their parents. They grew up in a different time period where things weren't as easy as they are right now. The way out parents were taught in school differ from the way we are taught now. Being from an asian background, my parents school lifestyle was intense with several hours spent each day to study for just one class. My experience is much different as I was brought up in a different country where our studies are not as intense as that of my parents. I feel like if most parents who don't show appreciation for their children's hard work aren't used to expressing emotions. They may feel proud of you on the inside but refuse show it.

When I feel this way I realize I am not doing the thing they want me to do. Sometimes just our "good" doesn't match. And when I realize what they want me to do, and i do it i feel good enough and their attitude changes, they show it too. And sometimes they expect me to do things i am unable to, or so hard for me. I havent tried it but i guess i can try talking about this problem and how it gives me anxiety. And also sometimes even though they show me i feel unloved. And feel myself not enough. Even tough they dont think this way.

Hello, I understand how it feels when you feel lack of connection with your loved ones. It can happen and it happens with many people specially with their parents. I am sorry you are going through a tough time with your parents. There could be several factors where your parents think less of you and you get hurt because of that. You would know your situation better. Can you find some reasons why your parents think that way of you ? Do not be harsh on your self. Have you asked your parents directly about it ever ? What did they say ? If this stresses you too much you can find some activities or interests to divert your mind and try to see if the relationship improves with time. If it still bothers you, it will be better to discuss this with someone who will understand. All the best.