Why am I not good enough for my parents?

For this question , I don't want to be rude to your parents . Because it is how the situation is done . But sweetheart you are more than good enough evening if you don't feel like it . You are a gift to your parents and I know you might say no you aren't but you are . And I hope one day you will feel like you are more than good enough for your parents . But you are hun , trust me I have thought many times that I want good enough for my mom but I was and I know not many people think they are good enough because their parents don't really say that they are but you don't go unnoticed .

Often parents have regrets about how their life is going and don't have the self esteem they want or need. They try to get more self esteem through their children. So it might be possible your parents try to accomplish their goals through you. Of course you are not your parents, you are a unique individual. You probably have different goals in life and different ways to accomplish those goals. When these are different than the ones of your parents, you are not fulfilling their expectations. They might show you their dissapointment and frustration. Of course this hurts and it feel like you are not good enough in the eyes of your parents. But the question is: "are you dissapointing them or did your parents dissapoint theirselves?"

If they say your not good enough you should tell someone older you trust or a really Close freind! If you dont have any you can call BRIS! If it's a feeling you just get you should sit down, talk to your parents in a good timing in Peace. I really Think they love you alot! There is Always peopel who is open and care about you, me and many other on 7cups and all over care alot. Dont forget your Amazing, adorible, perfect, nice and cute. Ur awesome just the way you are, never change urself please!

I have always felt that I was competing for my mothers love. She is very materialistic and if you don't have anything to offer her than she doesn't deal with you. She was never a nurturing mother and I think that effected me as I had kids. I never really knew love so I never knew how to give or receive it from anyone. I promised myself to make my kids feel loved and to show them that they have me if they don;t have anyone else in this world. I want to break the cycle and show them love that they can in return show their kids and family.

I think most people feel that way at some point in their lives. Our parents have so many hopes and dreams for us that it can seem like we will never “measure up.” It is also easy to feel like you are not good enough when your parents are upset with you. Remember, just because your parents are disappointed or even angry, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t proud of who you are. Open and honest communication is usually the best way to resolve these feelings. Just remember that your parents can be disappointed in your behavior or decisions, and still love you and be proud of you.

You are good enough. They just want the best for you so sometimes it may seem like they are being critical. They are just trying to save you from any pain or conflict - and maybe in a way that feels like they are going against what you think is right. Let them know that you know they want to help but that the way they are doing it is hurting you. Try to start a conversation about how you learn best and how you would like to talk about things like this. Hopefully, this can restore the positive feelings and support you need.

I think its not that we are not good enough for our parents. lets take it this way, since the day we are born, our parent's sacrifices had started. smaller bigger every kind of sacrifice . Now that we're grown ups, they've started to have little expectations from us. Not like in a repaying kind of thing but yet if we think through their perspective, i think they also want something in return. actually they deserve it. but somehow we fail to give them what they want. and that guilt makes us think that maybe we're not good enough.

in my personal experience, parents just want what is best for you. you aren't necessarily not good enough they just want you to reach your best potential you can be. Parents who are never satisfied with their children's accomplishments are people who are miserably unhappy within themselves, and only seem to want to share their misery by tearing down rather than building up. They fear their children will outstrip them and leave them in the dust. If their children do more and better than they themselves did, what does that make them? I’d say they suffer from self-hate, and it gets projected on to you. This issue is nothing to do with you, and everything to do with your parents. You are not to blame. You are not a hateful person. You are loveable.

Your parents need the best for you.It’s hard to deal with parents because of the differentiation of the age and parents will create pressure on their child’s life.Most of them don’t understand what their child’s going through and it’s so hard.It may cause depression and anxiety for the child that’s facing it.Almost 90% of parents fight with their children about grades,actions,behavior and so many more.I can’t give an advice here but all i can say that almost every relation of parents with their childern is bad and have a lot of problems and fightings that may affect the atmosphere of the house and that you should be willing to think how can you fix it.

I don't think you can't be good enough for your parents. They raised you and if you feel unacceptable you should talk to them about it. It might be difficult to bring it up but once you do you'll feel much better. It's probably all inside your head. If you really don't want to talk to them face to face, leave a note saying how you feel and go for a short walk. I've personally found that it's easier conveying emotions through writing. Talking to others face to face about how you feel can be difficult, but sometimes it's necessary. Either talk to them face to face about it, or leave a note for them, but either way, you should tell them how you feel. It's better to get things out in the open than leave things unsaid. I hope I've helped.