Whenever I go home, my parents treat me like a teenager again - how can I stop this from happening?

You need to sit them down to talk to them. Tell them how you feel about the way youre being treated and make sure that they know you dont like it. You need to be able to stand up for yourself and tell people how you want to be treated to earn respect. When youre able to defend yourself and say what youre thinking, as well as state your opinion, theyll take you more seriously. They will always see you as their baby because they have raised you as their kid. Theyre gonna want you to stay their little kid forever but you need to let them know youve grown up.

That is normal because parents like parenting. That's what they do. Have you tired talking to them about how that makes you feel? It can feel frustrating and like they don't understand that you are an adult and you don't need to be treated like a teenager. Getting frustrated at them won't help. Talking to them about how it makes you feel and how you would rather they act might help. Parents just like feeling like they are in control and they cannot help but to baby their children. That's what they have been doing for the last however many years. They probably don't know they are making you feel that way, unless you tell them.

It can be difficult to change others' actions, but when this happens it can be beneficial to confront them. This should be done in a safe environment and only if you think this is the best solution. It is difficult to be treated in a juvenile way. The most important part of confrontation is outlining how YOU are feeling as a result of the direct treatment. Use more "I" statements, trying to not make them seem like the attackers. This will typically make them see your point of view without making them automatically feel defensive as their negative actions are being called out.

i think to an extent, your parents may not even realize they are treating you in that manner. to them, you will always be their baby and child, so it comes naturally that they are concerned about your whereabouts. however, i can also understand how frustrating that can be when you are a grown man/woman and your parents are treating you like you are in high school again. i think communication is always key. you can have a talk with them and tell them kindly that you are not a child anymore and although you appreciate their concern, they cannot talk to you in that manner anymore.

It's common for parents to treat their children like teenagers again when they go home - this usually causes feelings of distress for the person experiencing it. Perhaps the goal is not necessarily to stop being treated in a particular way, but rather work with your parents resolve this issue together. Being honest and explaining how this affects you may help, and hopefully they will be willing to listen. If they are not, speaking to friends or other family members may help ease the uneasiness experienced. There are many ways to reach out, namely the listeners at 7 Cups, trusted individuals in your life, etc.

I will ask them to have a meeting over tea then make it as a opportunity to have an open conversation with them. First I will show my appreciation for their love and care. Then I will share some evidences and proof that I am responsible for myself. I will also express how I feel when they treat me like a teenager and clearly set the boundaries with them. This meeting has rules. No criticism and judgment allowed and use kind and compassionate language to turn the meeting into a successful one. Showing up with open mind and readiness to see through others’ perspective.

The ways in which parents show love can be different a lot of times. It is important for you to understand that just like you, your parents parents also grow up and have unique needs of the stage they are in. When you say that your parents treat you like a teenager, it is important for you to identify that what part of it you don't exactly like. In that case, you can communicate to them that this aspect of the way they treat you is not particularly appreciated by you. In the meanwhile, you can also take up responsibilities that usually adults take up in order to show your parents that you too are capable of taking up adults responsibilities.

Oh I understand this completely! I'm in my 30s now, and even when I turned 30, my dad would treat me like the 15 year old who left home, not a grown woman with a child of my own. It's difficult for parents to accept that their children aren't children any more, but boundaries are important. In my case, I had to have a very firm chat with my dad about the fact I was ready to be treated as an equal, and that I had earned that right by living in the world without my parents. What you tell your family is up to you, but usually you can't get around it without some kind of frank and honest conversation!

Our parents are parents. They will always see us their children, no matter if we're 12 or 28. It can be tough to be seen as a teenager, when we're adult. You have to remind them that you grew up and want to be treated like the adult you are. Tell them that you feel uncomfortable when they treat you this way. they don't necessarily mean it in a bad way, sometimes they're just happy to see their children and wants to take care of them, and the only way they find to do that is to treat you this way.

This is a very common problem: many families struggle to redefine roles after years of living as parent and child. Once the child grows up, they try to transition into a more peer role, but the history can block that change. It is easier with some space and distance, but visiting home can erase those boundaries. If it's safe, try talking to your parents! Set down the boundaries you want and explain why. Negotiate with your parents so that everyone is on the same page, then enforce boundaries by reminding your parents gently and leaving when it gets crossed after several reminders. You're growing up and you're allowed to express that!