Whenever I go home, my parents treat me like a teenager again - how can I stop this from happening?

Returning home can often remind parents of having you around the house as a child so they might (without realizing) interact with you as if you were a child. They might talk to you in a teenage like fashion, such as asking you to do things around the house in an authoritative manner, or they might question some of your adult choices such as drinking alcohol. I would recommend trying to have an open and honest conversation with them. Tell them about how you are feeling and how their behavior can make you feel. Be clear with them that you are an adult, and have your own life away from them and when you return home you want to be respected by them as an adult and an equal. It's likely they might not even realize they are doing it and an open conversation might help. If this persists or becomes a major issue, you could consider some sort of family therapy to try and resolve the issue. Clear and good communication is the place to start though!

you may be able to, talk to them about what you like, and what you dislike how you do get treated. Sometimes parents don't see eye to eye, with us and they do forget but always having small talks and braking down how you feel is, okay. we are humans. we become adults, we do have to face life challanges but i know you gonna do an amazing job at it.,keep up the great work and always know you are all winners, keep the great job up and do what you do best. dont try to lose who you

It can be hard for a parent to realize that their actions are making you feel this way. It's equally hard when you are behaving as a responsible adult, and your parents just don't see it. It might be a good idea to talk to your parents. There are a lot of ways to approach the conversation. Here are just a few ideas to inspire you, depending on your personality and your relationship with your parents. Let them know that you appreciate them, and that when you return home to spend time with them, you feel much younger again. Ask if there is anything you are can do while you are at home to reward them for raising a child to adulthood. Are there any tasks you can help with while you are home, to help them out? If you are not comfortable having a discussion with them, consider showing them by your adult behaviors, like taking out the trash without being asked, or offering to help prepare part of the meal. Anything that shows your adult skills in a way that they will notice.

It can be difficult for parents to accept when a child of theirs has grown up, even when that child has become an adult. Adult children may return home to find that their parents aren't treating them in an age-appropriate manner and this may begin to cause tension in the parent/adult child relationship. When this happens, even before it happens consistently, it may be a good idea to start opening the dialogue with your parents about 1) how their treatment of you feels to you, 2) why it's important to you that they accept you in your current phase of life (as a grown and independent individual), and 3) how they can treat you in a way that is consistent with your self concept and current status. Explain that you would feel more supported if they treated you as the adult you are, rather than the child you were (who they knew) when you were growing up. You might even think of examples of improvements they can make or substitute behaviors they can adopt instead, though these ought to be presented to them in a kind and nonjudgmental way so as not to unnecessarily escalate the conversation to an argument. It is a tender topic that needs to be handled gently and with great care, however, it is also important for boundaries to be set so that your parents and you can all feel mutually respected as adults.

This is part of emotional abuse which you are going through I reckon. Unfortunately it is very difficult to blame anyone of emotional abuse so easily given there is not enough awareness or knowledge about it. We all go through emotional abuses in our daily life and most times its our close people who are the perpetrators. We love them and they misuse this as our weakness to gain control over us. You are not wrong on your part. You have to make sure you yourself do not treat yourself that way just because your parents want you to. You should sometimes be affirmative in your response (not harsh) so that they atleast get the clues there is something not right in their behaviour. If they confront you just say it what the matter is..politely. I am 100 percent sure they will find newer innovative ways to embarrass you and thus confirming my theory. The relationship could get worse but you must not be harsh and hold your stand that you do not want to be treated that way. Sooner than later they will realize that you are not comfortable with their behaviour and if they confront again , this time speak your mind even if you have to be a bit harsh. Most times this behaviour is seen in parents when their own relationship is'nt very warm and they vie for their children's attention by controlling them. You need to be affirmative and polite at the same time. My opinions are my own. 7cups does not take responsibility of any advice to our visitors. Use you discretion properly on any opinion given here. I hope it helps. Cheers.

You can try talking to them, choose the right time and ask them if they have a minute to talk, let them sit down and explain to them how you feel, and that you dont like the way they treat you "as a teen" and let them know how you would like to be treated, remember, the tone of voice matters, speak to them in a normal yet loud and clear voice, avoid talking in a sarcastic way or nagging, just be confident and clear about what you expect from them.maybe you could ask them why they are treating you that way, maybe there is something your missing or something u did in which they thought was "teenage" learn from your mistakes and let them know that you asked that because you want to make yourself better and be mire mature.

Sometimes, parents don't really realize how or what they are doing without any intention to do so, So, it's important and a partly responsibility of you to make them assure that what's gotten into you or what's troubling you. Talk to your parents about how they treat you. It is possible that you parents are not aware that they are treating you like a child, so you may need to just bring it up. Try talking to them about how they treat you and ask them if it would be possible for them to stop doing certain things. Stay calm, step back, and reflect on how they are making you feel. Then decide to react in a manner that will not reinforce their image of you as a dependent child. Here are some things to try instead: When family members tease you about past behaviors you have outgrown or overcome, don't be offended.

This does sound like a frustrating issue that stems from a lack of communication between you and your parents. Sometimes parents can't pick up on the cues of society and growing up, and they'll always think their kid is their baby who need sheltering however much you've grown up. On some level this is okay, parents are supposed to be protective. But when protective turns to overprotective which turns to restrictions and regressions, it becomes an issue. You can let your parents know all those things, and that you feel like now that you're grown up, you should be allowed to be treated like an adult

I think your parent is showing their love and care, and that is why they want to make sure that you are safe and pamper you as much as possible. Think of it that you are lucky to have a loving parent that shows their affection towards their children. Not all children/family share the same love. I am sure you can speak up for yourself and have a good conversation with your parents. It shows that you establish a good relationship with your parents, and I would enjoy the presence of my parent pampering me than not receive anything.

Parents sometimes show their care by treating their children in a way that isn't always preferred. The perception of maturity that your parents see in you will somewhat govern how they address you. Show your parents that you are mature through motivation and determination. This could be by accepting responsibility for things that will relieve your parents of some duties. Change often takes time and there is no set pace for change to happen. Time is one of the key factors that may eventually bring about the results you seek and your parents may therefore see that you are capable of managing your own life. Remember that everyone's experience varies and what works for one will not necessarily work for another.