When do i get to stop making everyone else happy?

Often we care more about the happiness of others than our own because it is easier for us. When we help others, it makes us happy for a short moment and we hope to be respected and appreciated. But helping others is also easier than helping yourself, because you would have to realize that you are not happy. You would have to become aware of your mistakes and problems. Even if you have done that, there is still the fear that you can't find a solution. If you can't find a solution for a fellow human being, it's not so bad for yourself. On the other hand, it also gives us hope that everything can be fine (including ourselves) when we see it in others. So the answer to the question is actually simple. You stop trying to make others happy when you realize that it doesn't make yourself happy.

In order to answer this question, I need to make sure that you understand that you don't need to make everyone else happy. Sometimes, we worry so much about the others around us, that we forget to think about ourselves. I know it's hard to stop caring so much about making others happy, but its important to understand that you need to focus on yourself too. Of course making other's happy is a great thing because it means that you care, but if making them happy means that you're shutting your happiness down, you should hold yourself back. My main point through this is that your happiness should be your first priority.

That doesn't stop until you make it stop. That's the reality of the situation. There will always be an opportunity to make others happy. To put other people first, and yourself last. The opportunity will always remain and you have to understand that. That's out of your control. What is in your control however, is how far you go and for whom. The biggest lesson I've learned in life is that you can't put everyone before you. When you do, there's no room for you. There's no room for self care, for self growth. None of it. If you always want to make everyone else happy, sometimes at your own expense then you'll have loads of opportunities to. That doesn't stop. Hope this helped.

Just remember we are not capable of making others happy it depends on them all we can do is be kind to them and don't hurt yourself cuz of others . You are as important as they are so never think less of yourself it's okay to be selfish at times and to think about yourself but don't intentionally hurt someone Think about all that you do for everyone else, and then think about what you do for yourself. Set boundaries so that others don't take advantage of your kindness or inability to say “no.” It is OK to have conflicts with others.

Whenever you realize that you matter as well. If you're the sort that always compromises for others, you're probably sick and tired of being there and never receiving anything in return. But the thing is, just like how you're making everyone else happy, you're also depriving yourself of happiness by not considering yourself worthy of the attention and care yourself. If making everyone else happy has brought you to this edge, maybe it's time to start considering yourself as well. Do it, seize the moment. Be happy. Do it for you. It's alright to be selfish once in a while.

My guidance counselor once told me that on airplanes, they tell you to adjust your oxygen mask before helping someone else put theirs on. If you only focus on others before making sure you can breathe, a point will come when you’re no longer able to help others. You can only begin to think about what will make the happiness of others thrive once you’ve gained insight into what gives you satisfaction in life. When you help yourself, you can in turn help more people in total than if you had ignored your needs. Through this process, you can gain even further satisfaction through helping others.

When I myself feel happiness after helping someone so that the process doesn't stay one-sided and I don't feel drained out of my energy. That way I'd be able to help others better and would increase their as well as my own happiness. Besides, I don't think making everyone else happy is a bad thing. Of course, it gets draining if you're not taking care of yourself first. Both the aspects should co-exist to get a balance. One should know when to back off from a situation that's making others happy but isn't helping you. That's pretty much it.

hello! i’m S, and i hope this finds you well. this question is a question that really resonates with me, so i just wanted to share my thoughts on this. to me, happiness is subjective and, for a lot of us, hard to feel, especially in certain times in our life. happiness can be an emotion that is experienced in various situations and is usually essential for a person to remain healthy and balanced. you deserve to be happy. i think that there is no set point in time in which decide or know when you start to focus on your happiness instead of others; it’s more when you start to acknowledge and realise that you need to start taking care of yourself more. while taking care of others and making them happy is fulfilling and enjoyable, it can get exhausting at a certain point, especially if you’re not taking care of yourself and making yourself happy. i think that true happiness comes from within yourself, and i hope you can try to focus on yourself and your happiness because you matter just as much as everyone else

Exactly when you choose to. Each step you make is a choice and if you are putting yourself last then you may choose to change that. Start small with a simple 10 minutes of doing something only for you that you love. Then add on daily or weekly and build up the time and activities for yourself as you go. Eventually, you will see that you have shifted the time you spend on others vs yourself to more time toward you. Keep along this path until you feel the balance is right and you notice you are happier. Best wishes.

Now! Start only to be fair with everyone and do what you can only! Everyone has his or her own goals, make your own goals and you could set one of your goals to help the community in general, so you can do something good for the people, and stop helping them individually unless you have full and free will as well as the capability and specialty to do so. You also stop immediately if it becomes an issue and source of tiredness and stress in your life or a hindrance to your own development. If you are not making progress you won't be happy either, so you won't be able to make others happy, which is not your role unless they are close to you and the relationship is the mutual source of happiness!