When do i get to stop making everyone else happy?

Once you reject the idea that helping other people is a moral virtue, and that it's what justifies your own existence. The purpose of your life should be the pursuit of your own happiness, and the idea that you have an obligation to serve other people regardless of how they treat you in return can't be justified in a rational way. Now, this doesn't mean that you may never help another person. You can choose (emphasis on the word "choose") to help a person if they're dealing with difficult struggles through no fault of their own or if they're a value to you due to them being a partner or friend of yours. In those cases, you'd be completely justified in helping them because you're not sacrificing yourself for the sake of their needs. In fact, it should serve your own interest (i.e. happiness) to see them improve their well-being.

When you're feeling burnt out, sometimes you may get tired or burnt out when you've done too much listening, and that's ok, listening may be hard at first but you'll get the hang of it, you should always put yourself in priority so when you don't feel great or are tired of listening, than you should take a day off because when you're trying to make everyone else feel happy, you tend to forget about yourself. So I understand that its not easy to listen because not everybody is good at listening, but you should always prioritise yourself than others.

It is admirable to want to make the people around you happy, but it can often be exhausting and damaging to your own mental health and wellbeing. You and your happiness are valuable; you deserve to be happy yourself. That is why you have to remember to take care of yourself. Caring for your own wellbeing does not make you a selfish or bad person. On the contrary, it simply makes sure you are able to live happily so you can share your kindness on to others. After all, life is truly about balance. Think of when flight attendants tell parents to put on the air mask before putting them on their children. You matter.

You should never feel the need to keep making everyone happy. Your happiness should always come first. I'm sorry that you feel responsible for making people feel happy all the time. While I understand that keeping people happy is really good and can often make us feel better. Sometimes it causes us to burn out. Burn out is where we get overtired and kind of just break. This is definitely a sign that you may need some self-care is needed. Why don't you check out the 7 cups guide to self-care? I hope you find things getting easier soon. Good luck!

It is/was never your responsibility to make everyone happy. Everybody is responsible for their own feelings. It is not your job to make sure that people are happy. It is also not your job to make others feel any way. So, when do you get to stop making everyone else happy? Right now! With that said, I understand that can be difficult to understand. I had a people-pleasing mindset for most of my life. And I get it. It can be difficult to go through disappointing other people. But you get to a point where you're giving yourself up to others to the point where you have nothing left to give. And what you're giving isn't quality anymore. The time to stop making everyone else happy is now. But it really only starts when you start loving yourself and caring for you.

I had this problem for a lot of my life. Then I learned about what codependency is and how to heal that wound inside. I used to be a people pleaser. I always put my own feelings, wants and need some the back burner compared to everyone else’s. Now that I have learned to set boundaries with others, practice good self care and avoid falling into the pit falls of codependency I am much happier. A lot of times codependency can be traced back to our childhood where we were taught that our needs didn’t matter. Healing from codependency is so essential to become happy and fulfilled. Self care isn’t selfish, it’s essential to your own happiness.

The time that you feel that you can stop making everyone else feel happy, is when you yourself are able to make yourself happy. By living your life to please others, you are essentially killing your own happiness which should come first. By ensuring that you are happy, you can then make others happy by radiating your positive energy on them too. But, by forcing yourself to make others happy, long term you are making yourself feel unhappy. You should feel that making people happy comes naturally to you when you do and making yourself happy first should be your top priority.

The answer to this question is simple: whenever you decide to put yourself first. It's great to make other people feel happy, but we shouldn't revolve our entire lifestyles around it. It's important to make sure that you are happy first. You can start right now if you choose. All you have to do is realize that people will still like you just the same, and if they expect you to constantly make them happy, then they are simply expecting too much from you. It's time to put yourself first, as that's definitely part of having a positive and healthy mindset towards life.

You have to try to focus on yourself. I know sometimes it can be hard, because you want everyone around you to be happy, but you need to put yourself first. You can't make other people happy if you aren't happy with yourself first. It's like when on an airplane, they tell you that if there's a crash, you need to put your own mask on before helping anyone else, because you can't help anyone else if you're dead. Like I said, I know it's hard because you want to make everyone around you happy, but sometimes you need to just focus on yourself.

You get to stop making everyone else happy once you finally choose yourself. I used to be just like you and it would really hurt me because I would ignore myself and just do the things that I knew would make everyone else happy but then I realized that it was not okay because everyone else was putting themselves first so I asked myself; what was the point? There is no point. You’re a good person and good people tend to do those kind of things but the truth is you won’t be able to enjoy life if that’s what you keep doing. Don’t worry! I believe in you and you got this! good luck!🤗❤️