When do i get to stop making everyone else happy?

Focusing on myself and not on other people! Not everything is so personal in life and truly I am the only person I should care about. Not in a selfish way but in a self-loving way. Self-love is something that everyone should strive to do, it's something active that happens everyday, not something that happens overnight. We should all care for ourselves, just the same as we care for other people. Like a plant, we water it and take care of it, think of the plant as yourself. If you don't check up on it, it withers away. So don't let yourself get to that point, check up on yourself from time to time.

I have to stop making everyone else happy when I find it's exhausting me. It's draining me. It's preventing me from reaching my own happiness and disturbing my mental health and wellbeing. I have to sometimes put myself first and I have to be okay with that and everyone else has to too. It can come off as being selfish, but ultimately, I have to take care of me before I can take care of anyone else. Who is going to take better care of you than you? It's not important to be a people pleaser but a YOU pleaser.

Being unhappy you're self why would you wish to please someone else and make them happy while you are on the edge of mountain and with in you're self you are falling apart. Felling that people will not wish to be with you or like you if you say no to something or do something that you like rather then doing what people want you too. Being slave to the people you love while tremble inside with in fear if you break this habit you might as well be loner all you're life. You should know people who loves you will be around even if you went crazy so feel free to do what you wish and do not care if other are sad or happy.

You can begin when you realize that that is not your job. You are not responsible for other people's happiness. You are only responsible for yourself. Somewhere in your life, you have been programmed to think that is your job. It is a faulty program that does not serve you and you must dig and look at your life to find what caused that program, who was behind that program, and what was happening at the time you first began to take on this caregiver role. Once you see it, know that it is not your fault that that programming is there but you can change it and begin to experience your own happiness. Rewrite that old program script to one that works for you now

This is a really important question, because it seems like there are many layers to this question. Unfortunately, no one can "make" anyone else feel anything. We are all responsible for our own feelings, this is an important point in understanding emotional intelligence. As such, you shouldn't feel the constant need to "make" everyone any type of feeling. This doesn't mean you should walk around caring only about yourself and ignoring others, but it does mean that taking care of yourself (and your needs) makes for a better priority if you feel yourself burning out. Trying to "make" other people happy, or, having other people place the expectation on you that you will or should make them happy, may indicate a lack of healthy boundaries. If you feel this is a consistent issue for you, you may find the 7 Cups Guide to Boundaries helpful. It can be found here: https://www.7cups.com/boundaries/.

That is up to you. Making everyone else happy is impossible, dear. There will always be one or two people who do not agree, who you can't make it up to. First of all, it is so important to focus on your own happiness before trying to make others happy. It's a bit like a cycle: 1. You take acts to make your self happy 2. you have the energy to make others happy 3. keep on going with those self-care acts 4. and then you will have bit more energy for making others happy. The choice of when you will stop making others happy is absolutely and completely up to you. Sometimes we get very cought up in making others happy, that we start to forget about our own happiness. But our own happiness is one of the most important and most valuable things and we should truly engage in taking good care of it

Sometimes having these feelings can help you realize some boundaries you may need to set or that maybe you could spend some time thinking about how to communicate your own needs. It sounds like you're a caring person, and it can be easy with that type of personality to put others first. It's hard when you're used to that role, and you realize that it doesn't come naturally to others to seek out and meet your needs in the same way. Sometimes people need a little help in knowing how you're feeling and what you need to feel better. It's a wonderful trait to be a giving person and be able to take care of others, just make sure you're using that giving and helping ability for yourself too ♡

I feel like as much of it being such a good thing to make others happy. Making sure you yourself are able to feel happy is just as if not more important than trying to make the people around you happy. Think of it this way, if you're trying to make someone around you happy but don't exactly feel happy yourself are you in best place to do so?. In a lot of situations you have to think about your specific mindset and ask yourself if you are healthy enough to go and be there for other people. Remember it's an amazing thing to be there for other people but you need to be there for yourself first.

You can stop at anytime! As an ex-people pleaser, I asked the same question. Whenever you feel done pleasing people, you can stop. You don't have to please people, especially to make them stay. If they want to leave, that's their choice. They will never ever know what they're missing out on. It's your choice for what you want to do. Pleasing people isn't gonna make them stay. I tried for 4 years trying to make my mother stay, but she left in the end. That last time she left, I told her that I'm not gonna please her anymore, it's not my job to, I'm supposed to focus on my needs and I always put her first, but no more. What she says or does doesn't hurt me anymore, because I let her go. I try not to put peoples happiness before mine because that's only make me more sad.

I think that that is for you to decide. look inwards and focus on yourself. do the things that make you happy (as long as you aren't harming yourself or others 😊) this is your life! niot anyone else's, take control of it! of course you have to be a nice person and be compassionate and considerate but you can't do that when you yourself are being hurt. remember that you need to care for yourself as well, be kind to yourself and not just others. do not allow yourself to be hurt by others for being kind. enjoy :)