What's the best way to talk to your parents about academic pressure?
twentyoneanathemas
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Sep 19, 2016
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Confront them on a mild and non-defensive tone. Tell them how you truly feel- no sugar-coating and no over or under exaggerating. Make sure they know that you are not blaming them, and that you are not accusing them of doing you wrong. They might feel guilty or hurt if you tell them that the work is too much and that "you're not helping it, either". Try and gather some raw and true talking points that will make it sound serious. I feel that's the best way to talk to your parents about academic pressure without them telling you that you're wrong!
Anonymous
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Sep 26, 2016
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You could talk to them about how you are relly enjoying school but about how you are feeling like you are under quite a bit of pressure to do well and talk to them about why and how they might be able to help
awesomeVision52
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Oct 25, 2016
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Know What You Want From the Conversation
It takes maturity to figure out what you want to get out of a conversation. (Most adults aren't so good at this!)
What you hope to achieve can vary. Most often you'll probably want the adults in your life to do one or more of these things:
simply listen and understand what you're going through without offering advice or commentary
give permission or support for something
offer you advice or help
guide you back on track if you're in trouble — in a way that's fair and without harsh criticism or put-downs
Why think about this before you begin talking? So you can say why you want to talk in a way that communicates what you need. For example:
"Mom, I need to tell you about a problem I'm having, but I need you to just listen, OK? Don't give me advice — I just want you to know what's bothering me."
"Dad, I need to get your permission to go on a class trip next week. Can I tell you about it?"
"Grandad, I need your advice about something. Can we talk?"
avanef
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Jan 30, 2017
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Sometimes those things can be super hard, you don't know if you're making them proud with your grades or test scores and you want them to be proud with you, but sometimes those things are just the things you can do. The way best way to approach the situation is explain that you want to make them proud and want to make sure they notice you're doing the best you can, but at the same time let them know if something isn't working for you or you're having troubles and they should always be there for you.
resourcefulHeart96
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May 8, 2017
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I personally call my mom about any pressures i'm feeling in college. She knows me best and always gives the best answers and advice.
Anonymous
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Aug 6, 2018
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Sit them down, talk with respect, politeness, and simply let your anxiety out to them.
lovelyEars3903
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Mar 30, 2020
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Have an open, honest discussion.
Before you go plowing in with your view & your reasoning, take the time to think about what you want to say. What points you want to get across.
Perhaps even have a few bullet points written down to ensure you stay on point.
If you can explain your point of view clearly & concisely, it'll help you steer the discussion - rather than risk the conversation becoming heated...
They (your parents), may not realize the amount of pressure you feel, so taking the time to share your feelings & point of view could be beneficial for all.
Anonymous
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Oct 19, 2021
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You should tell your parents how you feel and ask them to support you, maybe by giving examples of what you need. Also, you can emphasize what you think is lacking or what would you want to hear from them or your expectations. You should be able to express yourself freely and try to communicate openly and without pressure. Your parents would need to understand your position and be brave to commit to your ideas, by making them understand where you are coming from, with a nice and calm conversation. Try to make them put themselves in your shoes and listen to you more.
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