What's the best way to cope with your parents getting divorced and constantly arguing in front of you?
Anonymous
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Dec 28, 2014
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You have to remind yourself that there problem are between them and not to do with you. Remember that they love you the same amount apart as they did together.
Anonymous
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Dec 30, 2014
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It's important to remember that your parents' divorce and arguing has nothing to do with you. They are simply two people who have enough trouble consoling their differences and are better off living separate lives.
Anonymous
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May 7, 2015
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Sit them down and tell them how you feel when they fight it will get them to understand they are not just hurting you but themselves.
Anonymous
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May 31, 2015
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Turn on music so you dont have to hear them argue. and go outside for a walk, so you dont have to see them argue.
UniqueLife
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Jun 4, 2015
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it's either you try to sort things out, which would less likely work, try to talk to them emotionally, which is pretty.... yeah... or just shut the world off with your hobby
UniquelyBarb19
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Jul 7, 2015
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I went through that 2 years ago, and I felt like crying, but we just need to let everything out, it's not good keeping everything inside of you when your feeling down!
Samalyn
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Aug 10, 2015
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Talk to them about it. Let them know you aren't comfortable with how they handle the situation in front of you.
GiedreSi
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Aug 11, 2015
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The most important thing you have to do is to accept that their decision to get a divorce is not your responsibility; this means that you have not caused this to happen in any way, you have no duty to try and fix their relationship or change their minds about separation. Perhaps you could try making a list of pros and cons of the separation to calm your mind. Chances are that, however upsetting the situation may seem and feel right now, there are some positive outcomes that may surface from this situation, especially long-term (e.g. both parents may be happier individually, you will not have to observe them arguing any more, lessened tension within your family will result in stronger bond and more positive relationships).
In addition, please understand that you do not have to be subjected to their arguing. The first step you can take is to make both of your parents (each of them individually, when the other one is not around) aware of the fact that you do not want to see (let alone be involved in) their arguments. If talking to your parents does not make a difference, always know that you have the right to walk away and excuse yourself from that situation.
eternalGrace13
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Mar 15, 2016
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Depending on age, I find that asking questions helps. They will be open about more than you think! Sometimes this can be comforting if there is some "self-blame" happening in the childrens perspective.
Anonymous
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Apr 19, 2016
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well, i would suggest one thing but and i believe there are chances that the idea will work. When your parents fight and argue in front of you, gather courage and and tell them right at the moment that you do not like this at all when they fight in front of you, and you feel disturbed, Tell them that its not your problem if they are going through hard time. I know this needs courage but i am sure it will work. Because letting them know would make them think about you, that they are doing wrong.
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