What do I do when my husband ignores me?
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Moderated by Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Updated: May 11, 2022
allnaturalUnicorns70
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Jul 7, 2016
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There are lots of ways of dealing with it. You can fight him or demand attention (not usually effective). You can try and understand why he is ignoring you (what's going on in his mind or his life, what is he feeling). You can come straight to him and try and speak in a compassionate way and bring your concern to his attention. Another option is to just be polite to him and live life as best as you can without his attention.
DragonRoseListens
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Aug 13, 2016
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Though personally this is a hard question for me to answer, because I am not married and I am a male myself, I do think I have one answer that could be a working solution. Though there are many reasons why he may be ignoring you you do know that he is in fact, ignoring You. Is he doing something else while he ignores you? What reasons do you think he could be ignoring you? Ask yourself questions and see if you can figure out why. If you can't seem to find out why? Try asking him in a calm manner, "Why are you ignoring me?" Furthermore you should express your discontent for his ignorance. Do stay calm! Perhaps he is ignoring you because he is upset with you. Or he has something bothering him. Maybe he just needs a hug or two and some silence or privacy. To simply answer," What do I do when my husband ignores me?" You should assess him. Ask why. And in a collected manner see if you can resolve that which is whatever is the reason he is ignoring you. Ofcourse in some cases the best thing to do is ignore them right back. Use the best of your judgement and try to show compassion either way. I know that when I have ignored my partner, I didn't want to talk to her because she had upset me. But I didn't talk back to her because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. So there's something to think about. Maybe he just doesn't want to upset you by saying the wrong thing. Maybe though he is ignoring you all together, which could be a sign of more serious issues. Think about the questions like, "How often does he ignore you?", or, "When does he ignore you?". Just try not to get too upset and if you love him, things will work out in the end.
Anonymous
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May 17, 2018
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Call his attention, by asking an advice, talking about something that matters a lot to him, doing something different
HeartfulJewel38
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Apr 21, 2016
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I write him a heartfelt and positive note to remind him that I am behind him and that I love him. That way, he can read and react privately and hopefully will ignite a spark to talk or cuddle.
smileforawhile
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Apr 22, 2016
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Have you talked to him about the way that it makes you feel when he ignores you? Communication is key in any relationship! Maybe together you can come up with a solution. For example, instead of ignoring you, maybe he can communicate why he is feeling the way that he does.
HereToHelpYou742
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May 25, 2016
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Let him be give him about 15 min then talk to him if he still ignores you wait another 15 and do it over
Anonymous
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Sep 1, 2016
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Well, that depends on WHY he ignores you. As he is your husband and you guys might wanna spend your lives together, you must talk to him about how you feel when he ignores you. Now if he ignores you anyway there is something called self love. Start loving yourself and ignore the ignorance.
NumberEleven
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Sep 8, 2016
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Respect his space and if it bothers you communicate with him and tell him exactly what he does that make you feel that way.
Anonymous
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Aug 9, 2017
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Try to find the reason to why he is ignoring. Is it because you said/did something? If he doesn't want to talk to you at all, you might want to give him some breathing room, then try talking to him.
Anonymous
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Oct 27, 2017
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Try your best to talk to him and perhaps think about what's going on in his life that could be causing it. He could be stressed or be having other problems that need addressed. Sometimes people just need space as well.
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