What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

Do not just tell him you don't hate him. Show it by your actions, by the way you treat him, and by making him feel that you valued him. As a daughter I myself sometimes failed to make him feel that i valued him. Actions speaks louder, that's a famous saying that means a lot. Sometimes it's better to express your care and love through actions because they will fully appreciate it since you made an effort in making them feel loved and valued. There are person who are vocal and choose to show it through words but some people want to see it, not just hear it.

I don't really know the complexities of the situation or the relationship between you and your father. A few pointers which might help- 1. Talk to him about why he thinks you hate him. 2. Spend time with him, schedule your time with him (if that works). You both can do something together, shared interests/hobbies or simply gossiping! 3. Communicate your expectations with him. How can he become a better father/ what would you like for him to do for you? 4. Visit a counsellor to identify strained areas of your relationship with your father. 5. And lastly, patience. Being patiently working on your relationship can go a long way. These are general pointers that are personally tried and tested. I hope they work well in your case too. Love & Good vibes :)

You do you. And in doing so you free him to choose whether or not he wants to do him. See it’s like a garden. You have in your life a garden that you’re tending. Your dreams, goals, hopes. That’s a lot of work, right? You have NO time for anyone else, right? Everyone else has their own garden. It’s equal. Now you can go into someone else’s garden and do the work for them...plant all the seeds of forgiveness and success and care for it like your life depends on it and hope they do the same for you. Only...chances of someone appreciating that and understanding, loving and respecting what you’re doing are not very high to be honest because if you’re going around acting like a doormat and a sucker then people are going to treat you like one. The principles behind why you’re doing what you’re doing are crooked and based on dependency. You could be growing those things in your own garden. While you’re over weeding someone else’s garden, yours is going to seed, being raided by mean teenagers and falling into neglect. This is your mental health. Your physical health. Your spiritual health going to seed. YOU DON’T WANT THAT RIGHT?! So if you’re tending your garden and succeeding and someone, including your father, looks over and sees how much you’re growing, how you’re succeeding, how you’ve found health, wealth and happiness by investing in yourself, they may be inspired to ask how you’re doing that and you can share what you know if they’re genuinely curious. Or, they will see your success and choose to turn their back on everyone and everything, choose to be consumed by pity and immaturity and pettiness, try and drag you down, at which point you have a choice on whether or not you want to let them drag you down. When you have your life working for you, don’t chase after people who are just growing weeds. They won’t appreciate it or change if you aren’t walking the walk because of the principle of the thing. Don't do anything or give anything to someone who wouldn’t or doesn’t or won’t do the same for you. Don’t be a doormat. Don’t be a slave. No matter how much someone whines and cries and has an adult temper tantrum, YOU DON’T OWE THEM BECAUSE THEY DON’T OWN YOU. You. Don’t. Owe. Them. Because. They. DON’T. OWN. YOU. Focus on you. Become the best you can be. Find a going concern that’s got a brand and add value to that. Eat more whole, plant based food. Appreciate and enjoy the simple things in life. That’s YOUR journey. That’s YOUR garden. Dependence is not your journey. Independently and interdependently creating the life of your dream to add value to others in a principled manner IS. Maybe you can see how difficult it could be to overcome limiting thoughts and beliefs passed on from your family or society or your boss or whoever told you lies to justify their own reasons for not having their breakthrough. That’s just more things to tend to in your garden. Weeds to pull. Seeds to plant. Maybe it sounds impossible. Well! It sounds better then pandering to some adult child, right?