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What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

Profile: peachicus
peachicus on Dec 24, 2021
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Writing a letter is often a really good way of getting your message across. make sure you write out your thoughts clearly and try not to over complicate things. Keep your letter close to the core message behind it, maybe talk about fond memories you have with him or how he makes you feel. Many men myself included find it very hard to process information when given directly and will deflect or simply not acknowledge it. A written letter means he can sit and read it in his own time and then think about how he feels before needing to respond to you
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 16, 2022
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Little acts of love goes a long way. Get him a glass of water, make some breakfast for him, ask about his day. Even if you tell him that you don't, he may not see it as you don't show it. Now you may not be a person to show your emotions much but others depend on seeing something to believe it. So if you really want to make your father believe you don't hate him, you need to act on it and show him that you care about him. It may be a bit awkward at first but practice makes perfect :)
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Anonymous on Jan 28, 2022
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You cannot control how other people think or feel, but you can control how you act. If he does not believe what you are telling him, that is not your fault. You can act towards him with compassion and patience. I was in a similar situation and what helped me was taking the time to talk to him, do things with him, and share my experiences. Being open with my father slowly changed his mind about our relationship. You have to accept that the situation is somewhat out of control, while also doing what you can to be empathetic and kind. There's no surefire cure, but there are small changes you can implement.
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Anonymous on Feb 12, 2022
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Effective communication and openness is always the right choice to avoid misunderstandings and negative emotions. Talk to him openly about everything and listen to him with acceptance. With unconditional positive regard, everything will be constructive and clear. Ask him why does he think that you hate him. Listen without the drive to answer, judge or evaluate. Give him the chance to express himself with no restrains. Accept what he shared with no judgements. Everyone perceives with his own point of view, so try to out yourself in his shoes. We can always turn a negative experience into constructive one.
Profile: softSummer2005
softSummer2005 on Feb 13, 2022
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Well, find out why he thinks that and then work on it. And explain things. Because a father should not think that ...hate is a strong word. 😊 Remember actions speak louder than words so just express ur love .Spend some time with him ,give him gifts nd make cards nd tell him how much u love him nd he means a lot. 🤍 I hope ur relation gets better . Try going on trips and just try to enjoy it all . It's gonna be alright okaii . You both just need to spend some time together nd clear misunderstandings🤍
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Anonymous on Feb 17, 2022
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Try and spend more time with your father. Perhaps try and take a walk with him or help him out around the house, or other aspects of daily life. If he does not agree with this, try and make an effort to talk to him every day about anything at all even if it is the most trivial of things (such as "Wow the weather is nice today, don't you think dad?) As long as you put in effort to interact with him, his opinion that you hate him will gradually change and he will be more likely to believe you when you tell him you love him!
Profile: friendlyWhisper7648
friendlyWhisper7648 on Mar 3, 2022
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You have told him that you do not hate him and he continues to believe that you do? Have you asked him why he feels this way, is there something that is happening that makes him believe this, talking it out could help to identify any misunderstandings? If this does not work, at the end of the day it is important to remember that we are only responsible for ourselves and our own actions. You can continue to tell and show him that yuo do not hate him, what he chooses to belive is his responsibility once you have communicated your true feelings.
Profile: confidentEyes9393
confidentEyes9393 on Mar 16, 2022
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YOU CAN SHOW HIM IN TIME MAYBE ITS HARD FOR HIM BELIEVE YOU BUT YOU CAN PROOVE TO HIM IN TIME THAT YOU LOVE HIM EVERY SMALL ACTION WILL SHOW HIM HOW MUCH YOU REALLY LOVE HIM..SMALL GESTURES OF FATHERLY LOVE CAN BE FELT BETWEEN FATHER AND CHILD.ALWAYS TREAT HIM WITH RESPECT LOVE AND KINDNESS AS YOU BEEN DOING SOON YOUR FATHER WILL SEE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU NEVER STOPPED LOVING HIM.HE WILL COME AROUND FOR SURE HE LOVES YOU JUST AS YOU LOVE HIM WHY DO YOU THINK HE FEELS THAT WAY ?MAYBE HE JUST WANTS URE REASSURANCE AS PARENTS DO LOVE HEAR HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 18, 2022
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You must be really upset that your father thinks you dislike him. Maybe you can try expressing your love toward your father through some daily behaviors, which might be more helpful than simply telling him you love him. Like bring him a cup of coffee, write him a letter on his birthday, cook for him, etc. Or you can have a drink with your father and start a deep heart-to-heart conversation with him, talk to him about your feelings. How do you feel about him? How did his thoughts affect your emotions? I believe that truth and genuine is the solution to most family relationship conflicts.
Profile: Train1
Train1 on Mar 30, 2022
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You need to have a heart-to-heart with your Dad to find out exactly why he feels this way. Did you have an outburst and said things to him that made him feel that you hated him. Was it something in the past that you thought wasn't a big deal, but he did. Maybe you have forgotten about it. Parents deep down always care for their children, no matter how they act towards them, or how their children act toward them. One day when you become a parent, you will know what I mean. Have a chat and ask him directly about what is on his mind.
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