What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

Not that the words always can help. You need to understand why he still feels that way. Reflect on your actions and see whether your actions speak the same as your words. Good to understand what made him feel in the first place. So did you speak to your father and try to drill down to see why he feels that way? It also could be something that bothers him so much and feels you hate him due to that reason. He himself will open up if you have an honest conversation with him. Finding the root cause is important in order to figure out sustainable solutions.

Meta-communication is the key to making your point. Try to demonstrate it everyday through your actions. Engage in small kind and caring acts. Help him out when you know he needs help but isn't asking for it. It shows that you care. He may not always be receptive of it so be cautious when you do that. It is possible that he may show some resistance in the beginning but with time, when he sees your persistence and effort, he will give in and reciprocate. Till then, warmth, understanding, empathy and patience are the way to go. Just hang in there and keep trying!

The most important thing is how you feel. That you know you love him. His personal feelings are all on him, and having nothing to do with you. Trust yourself and know that you're loved by so many people. Being there for somebody is a wonderful way to show how much you care.....so you can be there for him, reassure him, and show him that he is loved, but just make sure you're taking care of yourself in the process, as it can be quite mentally exhausting trying to care for someone else's emotions. As I stated before, the most important thing to remember is.....you know how you truly feel, and that matters so so much.

You may if possible try to have a conversation with him. Instead of why ask What makes him feel that way? Encourage him to open up and tell how he experiences the relationship between the two of you. Let him know you are not there to argue and try to honour that. Keep in mind that even if he says something that sounds wrong to you not to argue. Understand these are his experiences and experience is based mostly on emotions so that doesn't make your experience wrong even if he is different. Once he opens up and has said all he has to say, you will have a better idea of how he has been experiencing things. Acknowledge that you understand how he is feeling, and spend a little time trying to put yourself in his shoes where you might feel that way. Let him know that though you understand his feelings it is very important to you that he understands you do not hate him, and ask him if it's okay to share your experiences. Try not to argue while giving your version just tell him how you have seen and felt and feel now. Good luck!

According to pscychology today, What is good parenting. A large part of good parenting involves avoiding behaviors that can damage your child. It’s a psychological truism that “bad is stronger than good,” meaning that negative events have a much more significant impact on humans than good ones. For this, we can thank evolution. To increase the odds of survival, the hardiest of our forebears were much more reactive to bad things and committed them to memory faster and more completely than good or benign ones. It’s still true of us, all these millennia later. Talking to him and showing love through hugs and kisses may help.

First of all, try to think of why does your father thinks you hate him in the first place. Was there an argument with him and you haven't reconcile yet? Or was there some incident that could lead to him thinking you hate him? Next step is how do you approach him when you try to tell him that you don't hate him. Did you approach him in a way that make you look less serious? Normally, how do you have a serious conversation with him? After thinking of all the above situation, try to ask you father to have a face to face with him for serious talk. Then tell him sincerely what you feel about him. I'm sure your sincerity will reach his heart. Sincerely, supporting you for improving your relationship with your father.

It can take quite some time for us to overcome feelings of insecurity, but it is never impossible. I suggest spending more time with him, listening to him, and paying a bit more attention to him. Take it step by step and get to know each other better! For example, start by arranging meet-ups together with him based on your schedule, taking him out for lunch, discussing your days with each other, etc. Sometimes we need a bit more love and attention in all of our relationships, and that's okay! With care and patience, your relationship and understanding of each other will surely develop! Good luck!

Actions speak louder than words! Show him you love him instead of telling him. It's the little things that matter, too. Maybe offer to help him get to work or surprise him with breakfast one morning. Whatever you do, show that you care. Reflect too! What do you think might have led him to think the way he does? Is he an overthinker? Could you possibly have walked past him without saying hello one too many times? It's hard to solve a problem without acknowledging it at its full extent first. Either way, good luck! I hope your relationship with your father improves.

I would try and work out what it is that makes him think that way about me. See if you can help him to identify his worries or fears leading to this assumption: You told him already that you don't hate him, so what makes him still think that way? Maybe it's some event from the past that he'd need clarification about. It might be best though to have someone else be there who can support the conversation, either a mutual friend or family member or even a professional mediator in case that's something both you and your father would feel comfortable with.

Your situation seems pretty stressful. Personally, I have been in a similar situation with my own father. I know it seems difficult, especially when the accusations seem wrongly based and even confusing. While I do not personally know your situation, I know that for me it did get better after putting in different efforts. Why do you think that the situation got to this level? Also, if you had a friend in a similar situation to you, how would you advise them based on your own situation. I cannot give you personal advice, but I have hope that your situation can get better!