What do I do if my father thinks I hate him even after I told him I don't?

People often show their feelings in different ways. Some might put a lot of weight in words while others look more at actions. Your father may be the latter, and showing him that you don't hate him may be more convincing and affirming for him. I know for people in my family, we have a hard time expressing our feelings in words so we resort to actions to show our feelings. If someone is mad at another person, but they've forgiven them, they might approach the person with a hug or even a bowl of fruit, as funny as it sounds.

From this question, i think it is a clear case of pure misunderstanding and in the same you have to put some extra efforts of bestowing love on your father. To show him how much you care for him. As we know actions always speak better as well as louder than voice, so there is nothing kept to tell him again and again that you don't hate him instead of that start showing your love towards him. Surely, i think That is the only way to change your father's mind towards you, because in this world we value what we see

Actions speak louder than words. Don't just say it but show it. Love isn't told but felt. Help him see how much you care about him, how much you respect him. Make him feel loved and respected. Have a chat with him on a daily basis. Talk to him about anything and everything. Try getting a hobby together, cycling, running, solving crosswords. Do something together- just the two of you. Spend time together. Ask him his favorite movies, discuss those movies, watch new movies together. Tell him about your day. Ask him about his. All these little things will automatically tell him that he is loved and respected by his child.

maybe give him a little more time to accept your feelings. while you have told him you do care for him, to reinforce this belief, maybe you could find more direct ways to show him as well. little acts that help him see that you do mean what you say. overall, it is important to remember to give him time and space to accept your love. the progress might be slow with him, but a step ahead nonetheless. it is also important for you to remember that his reluctance does in no way reflect you. clarifying his misbelief was a great first step. and now you and I can work to discuss more ways in which you can help him believe that you actually care for him. would you maybe like to start by pondering why you feel he may think so?

A lot of the time people in our life don't necessarily change their minds because of words from one day to the next and it is important to show our intentions towards them on everyday actions. Maybe a good way to address this rift with your father would be to talk to him more often or normally so that he realizes that you truly don't hate him little by little. At the end of the day it all comes back to building the trust between you step by step, action by action, and day by day until finally he understands what he means to you.

I would recommend spending time with your father a little more to show him love and respect. If you don’t live close, make sure you give him a call once a week and maybe a text message during the week! If you show that parent respect that speaks louder than anything but also respect is earned. Also, always remember his birthday, Father’s Day, and any other day that is special to him. Remember, it may be your father also has some mental issues but it also could be his past that makes him feel this way. His parents may have never really showed him love and he has these feelings.

Dads can feel like this sometimes. Try to think about why he could feel this way. Put yourself in his shoes and think about what he could be seeing that you aren't. It could have nothing to do with you, it could be something at work or something else. If you haven't already, try to have an honest conversation with him, and instead of telling him you don't hate him, ask him why he thinks you do. There is always a reason for this sort of thing. Maybe you're doing something you're unaware of, maybe he is misunderstanding something, maybe it is something else. It's just good to understand what he's thinking.

From time to time, we can feel as if we are responsible for others and can change their beliefs and thoughts, In your case you have tried to explain to your father that you don't hate him. It might be good to bear in mind that the only thing we can control is ourselves and our own actions. In your case, you've been able to control the fact you explained to him that you don't hate him, but you can't control the fact that he may not believe you. The most you can do is in this situation is think about your own actions and what you are in control of in this situation. Perhaps have a think about what you could ask your father about his own thoughts and emotions and perhaps why he feels this way. I do hope you're able to come to terms and find something that works for the both of you.

We can't make people believe what they don't want to believe, but knowing the truth yourself is all that matters, you tell your dad you love him and if he doesn't believe you then it's okay, because YOU know you love him. My grandmother was the same way, she always told me that she didn't think I loved it appreciated her and I always tried to prove myself to her and make her believe me but then I realized that if she doesn't believe me it doesn't .after because I know that I love her, and I know that she loves me too.

People relate to, and understand others in different ways, if you've used words to communicate your feelings and that has not worked, try to communicate through actions. If your father has believed for a long time that you hate him, even if this is not the case, it may take time for him to come around, as that has been his reality for so long. Lastly and most importantly, I would say be kind to yourself. Your question shows you care about your relationship with your father and his feelings. You're doing your best! How people feel is not in our control. Good luck.