Seeing my family is a huge stressor, what can I do to decrease the tension?

Sometimes the space is better then the closeness. So spent time with your family whenever you can but also create a distance so that you have space to breath and relax.

Family is a huge stressor for most people-- the best thing you can do is identify what about seeing them stresses you out. Try to address the issue with them. If it's something they're doing, maybe they can correct the behavior. If it has more to do with you, perhaps they can help point that out to you.

Maybe have a family meeting and talk about it...and if it's still too much pressure set some boundaries

I often found it that it's easier to deal with family members one on one, and build more relaxed relationships one at a time. That way, seeing everyone together is easier, and when things get extra stressful you will have someone to fall back on. Also, if you have to meet them and are feeling very anxious about it, having an "escape plan" can be very useful, even f you don't use it. (For example, arrange a friend to call you with an "emergency"--it doesn't work if you take advantage of it all the time, but it's nice to have as a back up option)

Talk to your family about what is causing this tension. There might be certain people who agree with you. But, don`t be surprised if some others don`t exactly agree.

Trace what the actual issue is? Being misunderstood? Family conflict? What exactly is causing stress ... and then after decide how much time you wish you spend with your family depending on proximity and the reasons you feel stressed from the interactiion

Remember that family is a source of warmth and compassion, even if it doesn't seem like it, your family will be there for you when no one else will.

It can be helpful to limit the amount of time spent with those who are known stressors. Some also pay particular attention to maintaining strict boundaries as well as bringing a supportive friend to ensure you don't feel alone. If appropriate, family can be who we choose to be involved in our lives. Only you can determine if you wish to maintain the relationship. Be kind to yourself above all.

It always helps to talk to them, and explain that you feel stressed. Try to figure out why specifically you feel stressed when seeing them, and work it out from there.

Anytime you feel stressed try taking a big breathe or go outside for some fresh air. All families have tensions that makes us feel stressed and coming to 7 cups and having someone listen is a good first step.