My parents have unrealistic expectations of me. They put so much pressure on me to do well in school that it's almost impossible for me to succeed and I am sure to disappoint them. Its a lot of stress for me.

Hi. Can I just start off by saying that I totally understand, its the same with my mom, me and math. I know that sometimes, talking to them doesn't help, and only causes an argument. But I wanna tell you to believe in yourself, because you gotta make no one proud but you. I know that whatever you try, these things they say will, unfortunately, go to your heart, but instead just be proud of yourself and know that on the other side of the screen, I- a thirteen year old girl- am happy with whatever you achieve. I am happy of what you achieve and I believe that you're doing the best you can. Let me know how you get on :)

The first thing to do is to think of yourself and put yourself before them. After all, you can only do better when you are ready, and this can be achieved when you think of yourself.

Society likes to make it seem like there a lot of "rules," and many people unfortunately buy into that. We cannot change what other people think, say, or do, but we can be aware of ourselves, and set our own rules. Society's rules are ultimately made up and it's up to us to decide what is acceptable for us, what standard we should hold ourselves to, what we want to accomplish and how and when and why. It's your life. Eventually circumstances may come in which you will no longer be subjected to that kind of unsupportive rhetoric and will be able to choose the environment you put yourself in. Until then, if communicating honestly, openly, and calmly with your parents about these anxieties is not helpful, all you can do is persevere and assure yourself you are doing all you can. You can only be the best you that you are, and that is a wonderful you indeed!

I imagine I would be really stressed out, too, if I felt that level of pressure! Feeling heavy pressure to perform well can make it really difficult to do well for anyone. When I feel the most intense pressure, what works well for me is to spend 2-5 minutes deep breathing and paying attention to what I'm feeling in all the separate parts of my body (my feet, then my legs, then my torso, hands, feet, shoulders, neck, and head) somewhat slowly, concentrating on each area a bit at a time, while I breath in and out fully and somewhat slowly. After that, I try to focus on just the task or step that's in front of me, and try to ignore the bigger picture for a bit. After I complete each task, I try to mentally give myself a pat on the back for getting something done and off my to-do list. These are little things, but they have been big helps to me when I'm feeling really lost in the stress. I hope that gives you an idea of something that might help you feel less pressured and stressed. Hang in there, it sure doesn't sound easy!

i exactly have that pressure! since my family members are successful themselves, they expect so much from me. But do not worry too much, remember that you have the upper hand, you control yourself. If you have the will and want to do something, do not let anything come your way and success shall come to you. You have the power in this case.

Parents tend to put a lot of expectations on their kids some unrealistic and some not measurable. However most parents set expectations for their kids because they want there kids to become better people and do better things then they did. Their legacy is shown by their child's success. Its definitely not fair but it happens. If the expectations are stressful or making you feel like a your gonna be a disappointment talk to your parents about it. Sit down with them and explain to them why you think the expectations are to high. Maybe your parents will agree with you or maybe you will realize that you had some self doubt that was holding you back from the success of the expectations that were set.

You are not alone, all parents do that, but all I can say is parents do that to their kids to lead them to the right path so that they can be successful and have a bright future, so try to talk to your parents and begin by saying," mom, dad I appreciate that you want me to be successful in my life but your expectations of me are stressing me out and sometimes your expectations of me are near the impossible so I ask you kindly to have expectations that are possible and that are not stressing me out that much and I will work hard enough to succeed" and they will understand, they at your parents after all :)

Tell them, tell them to stop putting so much pressure on you because its making you even more stressful, they'll feel guilty and stop but remember, they are only trying to look out for you.

It is good if you can sit your parents down and talk to them about how u feel in this situation. Tell them that their expectations that they have set for you is stressing you out and that it is set to make you fail. Also try telling them what is a better option and what you would like for them to do to be supportive.

Just do the best that you can and they will be proud of you. Your main focus in school should be you. It isn't perfectly okay to feel stressed, balance this out by rewarding yourself when you perform well.