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My parents don't listen to me, what should I do?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 4, 2016
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Talk to another family member or write your parents and note write them a song about how you feel draw a picture
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Profile: 7thguyfromearth
7thguyfromearth on Oct 5, 2016
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Listening requires a give and take relationship, so before you expect them to listen to you, make sure that you, yourself, is listening to them :)
Profile: calmParadise87
calmParadise87 on Jun 22, 2017
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You need to sit down with you parents and tell them that you don't feel like they are listening to your concerns. You should ask them to maybe setup a time on a weekly basis to interact with them whether it be by going out and doing an activity or just having a sit down time at home.
Profile: Ruek
Ruek on Aug 9, 2017
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I am really sorry you are experiencing this. Is there someone else in your family that you think you can talk to and whom your parents will listen to? Perhaps you can share your concerns with them and they can talk to your parents about them.
Profile: ImaginationIsKey
ImaginationIsKey on Aug 10, 2017
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Take them aside and try to get their full attention. Tell them what's wrong and tell it to them straight.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 13, 2017
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Explain how you feel like they aren't listening, although that probably isn't there intention. You could also let them know how some ways that help you feel like they are listening. For example eye contact, open ended questions, or validation are some techniques used for good listening.
Profile: PassionatePeyton
PassionatePeyton on Aug 19, 2017
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Try to continue to stay calm and in good spirits. I know it must be frustrating to not have them listen to you, but staying calm helps. I suggest trying your best to cope with it, and try to talk to them about their respect for you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 29, 2017
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Well you can try another method to make them actually listen. Try sitting both of them down one day and explained to them what's bothering you, also let them know how much it bugs you when they ignore you. Try to make them understand and see things from your perspective as best as you can. Good luck.
Profile: DreamsOfWonders21
DreamsOfWonders21 on Oct 22, 2017
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Sometimes my parents ignore me which back then it made me upset but now that I'm grown up I learn that something's you can do yourself if one of your parents can't you can also go to a friend if you ever need to get something off your chest.
Profile: harmlessyouth
harmlessyouth on Nov 1, 2017
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On average almost every teenager feels as if their parents don't understand them or don't get them and are constantly punishing them but sometimes our parents are just trying to help and do what they think is best fro out future. if you feel that your parents aren't listening to you and you want to tell them your opinion, I think you should have a sit down with them where you all just talk and try to understand each other in a calm, accepting way.
Profile: colourfulwriter54
colourfulwriter54 on Nov 13, 2017
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Try finding new ways to reach them. This is usually a problem of miscommunication. Presenting your idea in a mature way would help them listen
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 19, 2017
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wait until there ready to listen, if it can wait, perhaps waiting will let them settle and be ready to listen.
Profile: everybodylovespizza
everybodylovespizza on Jul 27, 2018
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Talk to someone who your parents will listen to. Tell them everything you want your parents to know and ask them to talk to your parents.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 29, 2018
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Try to sit them down, express how important it is that they listen and hear what you are saying, and try again. Express before the conversation starts that you want them to hear you out before they try to give any feedback or input any of their own thoughts, to prevent them from trying to interrupt you as well.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 3, 2018
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Do your research about your issue that you would like to talk to them about first. If you know all of the facts and know what you're talking about, it's easier to listen to. Tell someone else about it, a professional or a teacher, these people are always happy to include your family and help open their minds and hear out what you have to say.
Profile: thaitea
thaitea on Aug 12, 2018
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Ask them when it is a good time to talk to them. Whenever they speak, listen and try to understand them as you would like to be when you are speaking.
Profile: supportiveApple61
supportiveApple61 on Oct 14, 2018
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Mostly parents don't listen to their kids when they think that the point you are putting forward is not of much importance. They may think so because either you are not explaining or putting forward your idea in a way that would make them think that 'actually what he/she is saying makes sense' or because your idea is actually absurd. If your idea or view is absurd then the parents should make you think about things differently. Our parents are much more experienced than we are, they know about many things better than us but there could be lack of some knowledge in some fields (for example, if my father is a doctor he won't have much idea about the economics and finance related matters) and if we know more and correct things about that then it is our responsibility to enlighten their knowledge and make them think that our views and talks are not absurd they have got some meaning and some sense. Long things short, we should try to put ourselves and our opinions more strongly and with some solid and valid grounds. :)
Profile: Angela108
Angela108 on Nov 8, 2018
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Explain to your parents that you want to improve communication with them and that you'd like to involve professional help in the matter. Ask to them to visit a Marriage & Family Therapist with you as a group session. If they are not good at listening, then it sounds like they might need to be educated in listening skills. A therapist should be able to educate and moderate communication. In this situation everyone can learn how to listen and talk to each other better. And your parents will have a better chance of learning how to listen to you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 15, 2018
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You seek professional help. therapy is great. Councilors help. Maybe even a near by pyschologist. Meditation eases the brain. Consider others feelings. If you’re talking to someone or to a group, and they’re not giving you their attention (surreptitiously looking at their phones, doodling, looking out the window, writing emails), they’re not listening to you. As above, you talking more is probably not going to help. Stop talking. Ask a question; find out what they’re interested in hearing. Even if you’re the most compelling speaker in the world, people won’t listen to you if they’re not interested in your topic. The depth of your passion for taxidermy is not going to engage your vegan friends – I don’t care how articulate you are.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 5, 2019
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People do a lot of different things to get someone's attention. Especially when it comes to parents! Children who's parents don't seem to give them enough care, often try to get their attention by vandalizing or putting themselves in danger. NOT ALL, but in most cases. That doesn't usually end up good, and also when they do get their attention, it's a negative one. I'd say, that you should try to find out, how your parents were raised (they were probably raised in the same way as you are). Then try to remind them how it feels. Lots of times parents do things, that aren't okay for their child, but not because they don't love them, but because they don't know what or how to do the right thing. As sad as it is, you have to accept that and try to get a positive attention, for example get a good grade. I myself have a weird experince-my mom didn't really know how to show happiness for me. So when i got a good grade, it felt like she didn't care and it took me a long time o accept that. It still hurts. What I'm trying to tell you with this, is that maybe your parents don't know how to show a certaint feeling and that is why you feel like you're not getting their attention. No matter what you do, do not try getting the negative attention, as it can ruin your whole life.
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