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My parents are getting divorced - what can I do?

Profile: Wes2
Wes2 on Nov 4, 2014
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This is unfortunately something beyond your control. Keep a line of communication open with your parents during this process-- remember that they still love you and this decision was not based on you. You can still maintain a wonderful relationship with both of your parents, and they may even have a very healthy friendship with each other. You can facilitate that process by being open about how you're feeling-- positive or negative-- and not shutting them out. Also remind yourself lean on your friends and other family members during this time if you need some space.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 5, 2014
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There is nothing that you can do, because it is not your fault. It's hard to see family break up, but it is what your parents want because they think it is best.
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There isn't anything you can do. Parents usually get divorced because of each other. Maybe they've lost feelings for one another, or just don't get along. It's not your fault.
Profile: ImperfectlyPerfect
ImperfectlyPerfect on Nov 11, 2014
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Do not take sides without good reason. No matter whose idea it was, they will both be hurting and need your support.
Profile: BodawayHonaw
BodawayHonaw on Jan 3, 2015
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Talk to them. This involves you as much as them. Don't let them bad mouth each other in front of you. Try not to take sides.
Profile: RosemaryBert
RosemaryBert on Mar 22, 2015
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There is nothing you can do. Just be there for them and know that we here at 7 Cups can and will help you if needed. Know that they still care about you and the divorce between them is not because of anything they did.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 30, 2015
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Always remember that you are separate from anything that happens between them. Do not bog yourself down with questions of why this is happening, or if it's your fault, or anything like that - without meaning to sound careless, it's their problem, not yours. Just deal with looking after yourself. The divorce could be messy, or it could not. The way you deal with the situation will utterly depend on how it goes. The best you can do is be a support to yourself, and in turn this will keep your parents grounded.
Profile: Haley622
Haley622 on Jun 29, 2015
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Going through a parents' divorce, the best thing to do is recognize that it is not your fault and that the love your parents have for you will not change. Try to create a schedule of how you will see both parents as much as possible and remain positive. Remind yourself that the divorce is happening for a reason that is good for you all, and that life and your love for each other will still go on.
Profile: Chevy81
Chevy81 on Jun 29, 2015
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I'll try to communicate how I feel about what they are going to do. Tell them how I will be sad, afraid about the future and loosing my confidence.
Profile: Sparrow263
Sparrow263 on Sep 15, 2015
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Understand that this is for the best and that they are doing this because they were not happy. If you love them, their happiness should matter to you most.
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