My parent wants me to do something I don't want to do, how can I tell them no?

Our parents always believe they are doing the best for us, sometimes it can be for their sake more than them. It depends how comfort you are talking to your parents about things. If it is something you really feel uncomfortable about doing, maybe sitting down with them at an appropriate time will help you open up. However, you know your parents. You know the best time to speak to them, if you can at all. Sometimes, we feel like we are letting our parents down when they feel like they are doing the best for us, however it's about what you want to do, as it builds the steps towards your path of your future. Do what you think is best, don't feel bad as it is for your benefit not anyone else. You are in control of your life.

Explain to them why you don't want to do it and try and help them understand how you feel . That way they'll probably ease up. It's important to not feel cornered or forced to do something that you are not ready for yet or comfortable with. Help your parents understand the reason .

My mom lives 8000 miles away from me. She is quite "toxic" ! Since she is getting older, I try to call her once a week, just to talk about her 3 young grandsons. I enjoy our phone conversations when she is reasonable but sometimes talking to her is very upsetting. Like this evening, she got so mad when I explained to her that it's hard for me to call my aunt who lives 1000 miles away because I am busy every day with 3 young kids, running a household and volunteering for my kids' activities. I am tired of her keep saying that I stayed with this aunt for a winter break over 20 years ago. Now she has depression so I should call and care for her. To be honest, I don't have good feeling with this aunt. Her husband (i.e. my uncle) is great but this aunt treated me poorly when I visited in that specific winter break. She made me to clean her chandelier, crystal by crystal. When I washed the dishes after meals, she kept turning the water to freezing cold because she wanted to save the heating cost. She has 2 children about my age and went home for the break. She was so worried that I ate the best parts of the food dishes, so she immediately place those into her kid's plates. For the last few years, I called her a few times because of my mom but I feel that they don't want to be bothered. However, my mom didn't get it. She kept pushing me to call her despite the reasons I explained to her. Eventually, she got all mad and even told me not to call her that much anymore. I feel sad because I know her time on earth is limited. Both my dad and sister are avoiding her at all costs.

Be logical and rational about your answer while listening to their reasoning for asking you do this.

What I usually do in this situation is explain my rationale to my parent. In addition, I also try to see their perspective on the situation at hand. I respect their views, but if I feel that what they want me to do isn't right for me, I would politely explain my perspective and try to understand theirs.

All you have to do is to tell them about all this situation. I think that they will not say you something bad.

Telling a parent no can be very difficult. Communication about the situation is key. Bring up why they want you to do it and why you do not want to. If it is something that makes you uncomfortable or goes against what you believe, be strong in your answer. You are a person and have a right to your opinions.

There's a saying "The way things are given is determined by the way things are asked for" Be honest but be respectful and try to find the best way to communicate your feelings to your parents so they may understand your reasons.

Sit them down and explain the reasons you don not want to do something, reacting in a mature and relaxed way. This helps them see that you fully understand what you are doing, and have thought your reaction through. They should respond by asking questions and adding their point of view so you can both come to a conclusion you understand, and hopefully like.

Tell them how you feel about the situation and what you want to do about it. If you let them know of your honest feelings, they should understand.