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My parent wants me to do something I don't want to do, how can I tell them no?

Profile: 7CupsOfEspresso
7CupsOfEspresso on Dec 13, 2015
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Sometimes you may want to do something and you feel that it really is a good idea, and don't see a reason to comply to their wishes. Sometimes its best to just do what they want. But if you are going to tell them no, explain to them that you are going to do it and make sure you do it with Respect!
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Profile: lizzywizzy
lizzywizzy on Dec 16, 2015
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Drop hints and talk about something you want to do instead. They might get disappointed but always remember it's what you feel passionate about .
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 16, 2015
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Talk with them about how the situation makes you uncomfortable. If it's important, they will explain why they want you to do it. Parents are understanding, and they have the experiences we have yet to gain. They usually know what they're doing.
Profile: shiningCherry13
shiningCherry13 on Dec 16, 2015
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Saying No is the most difficult task, and that too to your parents :) So it is not going to be easy, but definitely possible. Before saying a no, try to chart out the supporting factors for your no, and the negatives of saying a Yes. Choose an appropriate time and say No with the supporting factors.
Profile: serendipity2000
serendipity2000 on Dec 16, 2015
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If you don't want to do something your parents want you to do, you need to talk to them calmly. I would say the first step is to approach them when they are free and ask to talk to them about something. Then try to understand their viewpoint first, and then after that you can voice your concerns, This will hopefully allow you to come to a solution both your parents and you agree with. Hope this helps!
Profile: TopHattedTeaMan
TopHattedTeaMan on Dec 16, 2015
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Depending on how severe the task at hand is, if it is a minor task (doing washing) its probaly best you do :D but if its more major than of course you can, you are your own person.
Profile: lenimentus
lenimentus on Dec 16, 2015
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Emphasize on the reason behind why you don't want to do that but make sure you ask them for the reason why they need your assistance. Make sure you hear them out and have a talk with them in regards to this so that both parties remain unhurt, heard out and understood.
Profile: earlgrey9
earlgrey9 on Dec 17, 2015
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Discuss your reasons rationally and ask them to see your side of the issue. They need to understand and respect your wishes.
Profile: Dontwurry
Dontwurry on Dec 17, 2015
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I understand sometimes you may have different feelings than your parents, If I may ask you what is it that they want you to do
Profile: clh2os
clh2os on Dec 17, 2015
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Depending on what the chore or task is, depends on your approach. Sometimes we do things for our parents because it is respectful and they offer us the basics to get by--so it's the least we can do. However, if it is something you are uncomfortable with and you feel it does more harm than good, outline your reasons. If you can come up with reasons as to why not and a solution--what can be done instead--then you can have a meaningful discussion with your parents. It's about compromise.
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