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My parent wants me to do something I don't want to do, how can I tell them no?

Profile: politeDreamer76
politeDreamer76 on Dec 25, 2015
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Explain why you don't want to do it, and how it makes you feel. Your parents should understand, but if they keep pushing then you need to take a stand and just say no. Don't budge, unless what they want you to do is actually ultimately good for you. Maybe try and understand why they want you to do it
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Profile: dreamaboutme
dreamaboutme on Dec 25, 2015
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Slowly, carefully, but truthfully tell them how it makes you feel uncomfortable (or whatever term you'd like to use).
Profile: kindheartedKitty71
kindheartedKitty71 on Dec 26, 2015
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Try to be calm the whole time, then they will take you more seriously... Also try to tell them why you don't want to do it..
Profile: Renaldi
Renaldi on Dec 26, 2015
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Talk with them calmly regarding what you don't want to do. Try to reason with them why you do not want to do it, and make them understand your point. Also, suggest another alternative towards what they want you to do that is suitable for them.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 26, 2015
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It is important to respect your parents so sit for a while and talk to them and tell them what you think about that something they want you to do, remember you don't have to fight, listen to each other without any fighting, respect their opinion and talk to them calmly, they will understand because parents are a gift from God and they are here to protect you and help you after all!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 27, 2015
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It'll work out best for everyone involved if you listen to their side of the story. Respectively argue your point, and listen to their side of the story. This will help you understand why they're trying to get you to do whatever it is. Then, try to find a compromise that works well for both of you, and make sure you don't angry at them. Getting angry and starting to yell will benefit neither side, and only worsen the situation.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 27, 2015
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It depends, parents always want whats best for you, even if you might not like it now you will realize they were trying to help you
Profile: Gl0wGOALS
Gl0wGOALS on Oct 19, 2020
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Consider and communicate. Granted, you are not obligated to do things for other people, but check to see where they're coming from, too. First, consider their request. Is it related to your own self-care? (Such as hygiene, sleep, eating, emotional regulation, etc.) If so, consider what they have to say and see if doing the action may genuinely help you. If not, think of why they want you do that action, and communicate your wishes to not do that action. They may be your parent, but you are not obligated to act on their requests. You can express, "I don't feel comfortable doing X. I know you want Y (motive or outcome), but I can't do this because Y. I hope you can understand and respect my wishes too." It doesn't have to be in that format! There are many ways to say "no" thoughtfully while being assertive and clear. Stand your ground, peacefully, and stand up for your feelings, needs, and personal respect.
Profile: Becca13
Becca13 on Dec 13, 2015
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Personally, I'd sit down with them in a comfortable environment and have a conversation with them, explaining why I wouldn't want to do what they are asking of me. In my experience, when you can calmly explain your reasons, parents are more likely to take you seriously and understand your point of view. The same is asked of you though! Sometimes parents have a validate reason for asking you to do something as well. Communicating and listening from both sides is important!
Profile: positivethoughts22
positivethoughts22 on Dec 13, 2015
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It really depends upon the situation, sometimes our parents push us in directions we don't want to go because they think it will benefit us, their intentions might be good. If you have considered it and still do not feel like it's something you want to do, come up with two valid reasons as to why you don't want to go through with it. Maybe they want you to go to college, and you don't want that path right now. 1. You're genuinely not interested in school and find it stressful. 2. You feel the workplace will offer you better experiences and help you become independent sooner. Keeping it simple, yet relaying your feelings are important.
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