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My parent wants me to do something I don't want to do, how can I tell them no?

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Anonymous on Jan 2, 2016
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Be direct and tell them that you really don't want to do the thing and list your reasons why. Tell them that you don't feel like you're being heard if they disregard your opinion. If you feel uncomfortable talking to them, write a note.
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Anonymous on Dec 13, 2015
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It's always best to ensure you understand where they are coming from and to start from there. At the end of the day your parents (hopefully) care about you and want the best for you. And then help them to understand that it's important that whatever decision you make that it's something you're going to be happy with because it's your life and you're the one that's going to have to live with the decisions you make. Not them!
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thelittlepsychologist on Dec 23, 2015
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Coming from a family that I had a hard time finding my own voice in, I found the only times that I could really get through to my parents was when I put things into their perspective when explaining why something wasn't right for me.
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healingPillow43 on Dec 23, 2015
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Is your parent asking that for your own good? otherwise sit them down and talk to them about why not
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Anonymous on Dec 23, 2015
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Try having an appropriate conversation and discuss why you would not like to complete what they are asking you to do.
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Anonymous on Dec 24, 2015
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Just explain to them you dont. Go into the topic slowly, dont rush things. Try telling them at dinner|| STAY STRONG
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Anonymous on Dec 25, 2015
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You can have a conversation with them in a polite manner that it is your life and you choose what you want to do, if they don't respect you that is fine but you cannot control me.
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xoliox on Dec 25, 2015
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Try to have a respectful tone and use "I" statements to emphasize that you feel unsettled by something.
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Greatlistener87 on Dec 25, 2015
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Sit them down and be straight with them, tell them that they will have to learn to respect your decisions in life and know that you are happy that way.
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IBlueRubberBoots on Dec 25, 2015
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Standing up for yourself is hard, especially when you've worked so hard to earn respect and admiration from loved ones. But sometimes, for your own good, you need to stand your ground and explain to them why you cannot do as they've asked. Even if they don't agree, that love and respect you've earned will go a long way, when you've explained what you feel what is best for you.
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