My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

So sorry. His decision to have an extramarital affair must be hurtful to the family. I know many lousy spouses/people who are wonderful parents, therefore one issue shouldn't have to do with the other. I sense the love you have for dad and you shouldn't have to choose between parents. Grief is never easy, but unfortunately it is common. I suggest you seek family counseling to help you understand the loss. If he's a nurturing and supportive parent, ending a relationship should not be an option. Best Wishes!

While it is normal to feel protective of your mother after your father has cheated on her. What is important is how you feel and where you want your relationship with both your parents to go. The fact that he cheated is between the two of them, how it has affected you and what you want to do about it is between the three of you or just yourself

Explain to your father that what he did was very wrong, and listen to his reasons. Explain to him that it will take some time for you to trust him the way you used to before he had an extramarital affair, and let him know that it hurt you a lot, but also let him know that you're his child. Maybe don't end your relationship with him, but explain to him what you're feeling.

Talk to your father. And, listen too. Once you better understand why he is having this affair you will be in a better position to choose your response.

I would talk to your father about how this makes you feel. Know that he is making his own decisions and let him know that you are having a hard time with them. Let him know that a part of you wants to end your relationship with him because of his extramarital affair. Also let him know what specifically upsets you not just that it upsets you. Is it that your mom got hurt? Is it that he has been selfish?

I know that this must be hard for you, but you need to let this stay between your mother and father. It is hurtful to find out something like that, but it's not your issue. You're the kid. Stay out of it. If your mother doesn't know, don't tell her it'll be best if she gets it from him. If she gets it from you it will just be your word against his and it might put a split within you and your mom's relationship especially if you have no proof and/or evidence to back up these accusations. I am sure your mom is a smart woman and will figure it out on her own, but trust me don't get in the middle of it. It's not your place to do so.

He'll always be your dad, even thought he cheated on your mom, you have to respect him because he gave you and make you everything you are and have.

It is your father's choice who he wants to be with and your mom's choice to decide if she will forgive him. This is between them. It was their choice and you should try to understand and not hate them for mistakes they make.

Hi, I've been through the same thing with my dad. However, I knew they didn't have a good relationship. I was upset that he did it but I still wanted a relationship with my dad. Just follow your gut, personally I didn't want to lose my dad. Do what you think is right

That is a very difficult situation. I am sorry you are going through that, I can understand how you would want to have nothing to do with him because he hurt your mom. This, in turn, hurt you. Maybe you should tell him how you feel and how this impacted you. Give some time and see what happens. If your dad cares for you he will come around. You also need time to heal. Counseling may be helpful to you to work out these issues.