My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

Well it's not easy I will tell you that. I have also had similar events take place with my parents, due to separation because of extramarital affairs. My situation happened very early on as a child so I didn't get to worry about my father's feelings at the time I was not given a choice unfortunately. But I could see how this could way on your shoulder's. First of all your father put his self in that situation, and usually there are consequences to those actions. But please know that you are not responsible for the outcome. You are entitled to have worry or concern at your Dad's actions because you have fear of loosing your family, and who wants to know that dad is cheating on mom right. Dad may become depressed it can effect all parties. But you don't have to end your relationship with him. The family may need counseling to help the family with separation. And hopefully your Father can see the hurt he's caused and try to build gaining the trust of his loved ones. Sometimes families move on and you will get through it, its just how people move on. Try to support both parents your mother for her devastation of your father's affair, and your father for his embarrassing act towards your family. And know that things will work out fine. I'm sure you can work it out being that he loves you dearly. My Father loves me it just didn't work out as planned with my parents. So I learned to forgive in hopes to build and have better future relationships for myself. And I know you will do the same. Good luck on the way!!!!!

Keep in mind that your relationship with your father is separate from his relationship to others. The extramarital affair he is having does not reflect negatively on you, and he will have to own the consequences of his actions. You didn't cause it, cannot control it, and cannot change it. There is no way to "punish" him for his actions. Each individual must come to terms with the impact he is having on each relationship he has. You must take care of yourself -- whether that means taking time away from him or maintaining your relationship with him. Do what is right for you.

Yeah. I think it's hard to solve. But, you just end up this now. Don't be afraid about what happened next.. because your step for want to end up is good, I think. Yeah, It's okay you feel afraid for what happened to him. Because he so meaningful to your life. But let's think it clearly. If your mom know it, what Will she feel? What Will she think about both of you who hurt her heart. The end of something is beginning for others. I think both of you must learning the truth because It's can't be forever. In the end, it Will be hurting you, your father, your mother. But you need to decide. You not alone. I Will hear you :)

Although it truly sucks that he would do that to your mom it is just that something he did do your mom not you. His non parental activities aren't a reflection on his love and care for you.

I know it's traumatizing, but the relationship between your parents are their business, not ours. I'm sorry, I know it feels that there's always something you could do about it, but in my experience, I know that their marital mistakes should be limited within their relationship, while your relationship with them should remain your responsibility. Trust me, sometimes that alone can fix things.

Don't end a relationship. Forgiveness is a hard concept but something that is not impossible. Don't let hurt from the past ruin your future.

Have an honest conversation with your father, if you feel safe to do so. Tell him exactly how you feel and that the affair is hurting you. Because he loves you, he will understand. Maybe you will be able to hear something from him that will help you understand what he is going through as well. After all, marriage is hard. Before you just end the relationship, give it your best shot at resolving it.

Go to your mom. Let her know what's going on. It is definitely going to be hard, and there's a high possibility that your dad will be angry at you for awhile. But at the end of the day, you're his kid, making you his number one priority. It's worth it all the way.

No matter what you still need both parents in your life you just stay out of it that's why you tell her

The part of this situation I will focus on is concern that someone in our lives will be hurt if we decide to stop associating with them. We always have to follow what is best for our own well-being, period. Regardless of what the unsupportive, damaging influences is: whether it is our environment, our job, our friend, our family or whatever it is: it is always okay to leave an unsupportive influence in the past and look for new supportive influences to replace it with. Having said that, I would recommend an open-minded honest conversation with both parents to at least announce that you are no longer associating with one of them. That conversation will give you peace of mind that you stood your ground; you do not even have to reveal the reasons for your decision if you don't feel safe to.