My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?
Anonymous
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Jul 16, 2016
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I've been told a thousand times that the things that happen between your parents are none of your business and you shouldn't get into it or resent your family, but it's sometimes really hard to get past this. I would advise you not to end your relationship with him as you might end up regretting it; maybe talking things out with your, or your mom if she's heard about the affair, could be the best way for you to ease your mind a little.
jovialMermaid84
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Jul 17, 2016
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It always takes time to heal from being hurt. Take the time you need, separate yourself if it will help you heal. Ultimately, forgiveness and love will be cause the least suffering for you, your father and everyone involved.
Darcee
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Jul 22, 2016
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It's rarely wise to insinuate oneself into another's private, intimate relationship. Your parent's privacy should be respected in this situation. Your mother may well know of your father's affair. Your best course is to remain loving towards both parents, and accepting of them as human beings, capable of doing both good and less than, in their lives. It is their marriage, and only the two of them understand the intricacies of their union. Love them in spite of their flaws, and refrain from judgment.
Anonymous
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Aug 5, 2016
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It's undeniably a tough situation to go through, however, I believe that you should still issue it. It would not be a wise choice to end your relationship with you father because technically your parents marriage is not something that directly concerns you. The best way to tackle this situation is to talk it out with your father and ask him to tell your mother about his extramarital affair so they can sort it out the way they find most comfortable.
Ending your relationship with a member of your family is never easy and it's probably something that you would end up regretting sooner or later. You should forgive your father for hurting your mother and it should not affect your relationship with him since he's surely a good father and he definitely loves you a lot. The fights and problematic issues they might have should not come between you three, they should not have a negative impact on your relationship with your parents.
Anonymous
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Aug 7, 2016
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Cutting your dad out of your life will only hurt you both. He same thing happened to me awhile ago and I cut him out completely and it ended awful. He became needy depressed and ended up breaking up with the woman he cheated my mom on with out of guilt. If your mom knows he probably lives with the guilt every day and what he did is not acceptable and though your loyalty to your mom is comendable it's their war not yours. Tell him how you feel but don't lose him over a mistake no matter how big.
Naicoro
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Aug 25, 2016
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you can confront about how you truly feel and show that he already have a loving family and what he is doing is wrong and would ruin the family he created .
Countrygal92
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Sep 7, 2016
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This is an extremely difficult situation. I prefer to base my relationship with people on my own interactions with them. It is possible to love a person and carry out a relationship with someone while not agreeing with all of the choices they make. You need to decide if this is an option for you.
heythereyousmiles
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Sep 14, 2016
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Tell your father how that makes you feel. Maybe once you tell him that and explain why you dont like it maybe he will stop and open up a little bit more to you and explain why he was doing what he was doing
sheenaelisan
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Sep 15, 2016
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How are you are feeling now? This must be such a hard time for you. You're showing a lot of strength by reaching out. If wanted, I will check our resources for a helpful guide to look over. I'm glad that you're sharing this with me, I want to be your support. Let's discuss what you read in the guide that I find, if you find that I am listening and supportive.
juhirashOA
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Nov 22, 2017
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What the father did is wrong, no doubt about that. But this is something that is between the husband and the wife. Of course, one is bound to feel horrible because a parent just betrayed you and broke the family. Yet, If he has been a good father so far, dont entirely shun him. Take your time, no one says you are obliged forgive, forget and move on. However, a man who failed at being a good partner is not necessarily a bad parent. We must remember that everyone has there weaknesses. Even parents. Also, their is a lot to a story than what meets the eye.
The ultimate solution is to be patient. The blame game never got anybody anywhere.
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