My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

While you may feel angry or upset with him now, you need to remember that his actions weren't directed at you. You may feel defensive over your mother but remember that that isn't your job either. It may be difficult separating your dads actions from him as a person and if you can't you shouldn't have to take responsibility for how he feels after. When I found out that my Mum had cheated on my dad, originally i was disgusted but over time i realised that while they were both upset short term they both became happier in finding new partners. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to give but it can be the most rewarding

Ultimately it is your choice. If i was in your shoes, I would try my best to be subtle about it and cause as little pain as possible to both my parents. I never think breaking off the relationship is a good idea. A separation between a father and child is never good but the ongoing nature of the extramarital affair is an issue. You may not want to approach him directly so that you can get him to stop and keep the bond with him simultaneously. What then do you do? I would say find a way to let him stop wlqirhoit dirwctly approaching him.

It must be extremely difficult to learn that your father is having an affair outside of your family. It is hard to imagine the situation and the factors that caused him to choose that. It is understandable that you feel that you need to end relations with him for the hurt that he is causing. However, your compassionate side understands that withdrawing love from him may cause him to feel even worse and fall into an even deeper hole than before. You need to try to keep into perspective who your father is to you, and the love and relationship that you have had. If he did some other bad thing, would you stop loving him? If possible, try to picture things from his perspective, would he ever want anything to come between him and his child, and the love that he has? You need to follow your heart. One thing I can advise is that showing love and kindness even to the most broken of people can heal them and make them good.

I know how it feels as i too went through something like this. I then started to think that in the end, he has not done anything wrong to me and it's his relationship with my mother and they need to sort it out at one point. As kids we can help them sort it out but it's about them loving each other. I felt that it's their situation they need to manage and i felt i will not want to put him through the fact that i am leaving him As he has this affair. In the end i was raised up by both of them and i can't be taking sides. I love them equally only thing i can do is to make them understand. Love is something we can't force upon :)

You could have a talk with your dad about how you feel about is choice to cheat on Your mom. And open , honest face to face chat may be good for the both of you. However , you k ow your father best and know whether approaching him in this delicate subject would be beneficial Or not. He may become defensive and angry when you first bring it up. What happens between him and your mom is not a burden that you need or should carry. Their relationship is deeper than you may see as a child of them and it Ya be difficult To understand all the inner workings of this relationship

hello this must be a very upsetting time for you do you want to tell me how this is making you feel I am sure you can get through this worrying time I am here when ever you want to talk its hard we love both our parents and don't like to see either of them upset. maybe give yourself some time before you address the situation with either of them when you feel ready talk to your dad about how you think this will affect your relationship then explain that you are worried . try to be kind to yourself and not worry I am sure things will sort themselves out

We can say that you have 2 inersides within yourself, the woman side that is feeling betrayed for what he did to your mother, and the daughter side, that loves her father no matter what. He will always be your father no matter what happens between him and your mother, they have a man-woman relationship, you have the daughter-father one that is indestructible. The problem is theirs (parents) to resolve, between them. What you have to do is speak with your mom also, after the storm passes, so she can answer you from the point of view of a mother and after as a woman and I'm sure you'll arrive at a resolve.

I am unable to give you advice but I am here to listen and support you during this difficult time. I can tell you are really struggling with this and it is very hurtful to you for many reasons. I'm sorry to hear that your dad is having an extramarital affair. Not only is it hurtful to you but your mom as well. I'm sure he loves you a lot. I know you don't want him to be depressed either. What would you like to happen in this situation? What would resolve the hurt and pain that you are feeling?

That is a very tough situation. Children are frequently real victims in the complicated relationships of their parents, as they are often turned apart between mom and dad. Children often feel stuck and unable to decide what to do and whose side to take. You probably feel confused; you want to be supportive to your mom because she was betrayed, but you love your dad too, and you do not want to lose him. It is important to know that parents' problems are not your fault and not your responsibility. You don't have to choose between mom and dad; they both love you and care for you.

As difficult as this may be for you, I imagine it must be incredibly painful for your mother. Fortunately for you, you don't have to deal with the situation. It's simply not yours to deal with. It is never wise to involve yourself in another person's marriage. It's unfortunate that your mother is experiencing this. You have the opportunity to support and comfort your mother in whatever decision she makes regarding her marriage. You also have the opportunity to continue having a relationship with your father, who is human, and makes mistakes. Ask yourself if you would hold every other human to the same standard. Would you cut off contact with anyone who has an affair at any time? Or only your own father? Take these things in to consideration in your dealings with your father and remember that this isn't your battle to fight. You don't have to take sides. Relieve yourself of that burden. Best of luck to you.